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Old 01-05-2012, 09:47 PM   #31 (permalink)
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Update: My wife & I are still talking but I'm still at my parents house. I am going round this weekend for some drinks with her though.

I am still wearing my wedding ring but she has changed hers to a different finger. Am I doing the right thing with my ring & what would you read into her moving it off the wedding finger but wearing it on a different one?
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Old 01-05-2012, 10:05 PM   #32 (permalink)
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If you are doing Plan A, then yes you are doing the right thing by wearing your ring.

As for her moving the ring to another finger... it's an interesting statement. I read it as she's half in the marriage still. Were she completely done with it I'd expect her to take the ring off.
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As for her moving the ring to another finger... it's an interesting statement. I read it as she's half in the marriage still. Were she completely done with it I'd expect her to take the ring off.
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Update: My wife & I are still talking but I'm still at my parents house. I am going round this weekend for some drinks with her though.

I am still wearing my wedding ring but she has changed hers to a different finger. Am I doing the right thing with my ring & what would you read into her moving it off the wedding finger but wearing it on a different one?
You need to move back to you house immediately. If you want to go plan A, you need to be around her so that she can she the changes you have made. Why are you waiting?
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You need to move back to you house immediately. If you want to go plan A, you need to be around her so that she can she the changes you have made. Why are you waiting?
OK Tall Guy. Will consider this over the weekend. I just don't want to annoy or frustrate her with my presence.
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Old 01-06-2012, 03:47 PM   #36 (permalink)
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OK so she text me tonight saying "I feel sad that I am being so mean to you and you're still nice. I feel like I've let you down. I just can't lie any longer and I can't change how I feel."

What would you read into that? I'm clutching at straws a bit now.
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That's she's in an affair and she isn't hidingit anymore.
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This is my concern but I don't understand why she'd be prepared to stay around for 2 months to see if anything happends even though she currently believes it won't if that were the case.
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Hi everyone. An update. Unfortunately it has turned out my wife has indeed been cheating on me & has found someone else.

Thanks for the help & advice during this time. Naturally I'm devastated but can begin moving on & will prepare myself for a legal battle I will not let her win.
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Jono: Appreciate the update. When you get a chance (and if you feel like) - would you care to share how and what you found out?

If I recall correctly, you weren't getting any indicators or signs of her infidelity. Curious to know what changed?
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Hi everyone. An update. Unfortunately it has turned out my wife has indeed been cheating on me & has found someone else.

Thanks for the help & advice during this time. Naturally I'm devastated but can begin moving on & will prepare myself for a legal battle I will not let her win.
BTW - one bit of advice on dealing with the affair - expose it wide and far. Not out of vengeance, but because it's the right thing to do.

The affair obviously can't stand the light of truth - otherwise she wouldn't have worked so hard to hide it.

Hire a PI to do the work - remember to charge the cost of the PI against her share of the divorce settlement.

Then when you have the facts and the proof - don't confront her - instead expose it wide and far - friends - family - work - and most importantly the OM's life.
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