Re: Is it common for her to not push for divorce yet?
WS are notorious for not filing or working to get divorce final. They want to keep all options open.
Have the two of you actually sat down and discussed the nuts and bolts of a divorce at all? In general terms your best off divorcing while she is having fun in affairland. They are more concerned about having fun and being "happy" than the real world. After a few months and she blows thru a few guys and she starts feeling broke financially your going to be in for a much tougher situation.
Divorce sucks financially speaking, the longer it looms the worse the financial doom becomes. She can lose her job, you could lose yours. She may never advance in her current career, yours could take off.
A buddy of mine did the let's just stay separated game, 3 years later the spouse drunk has a car accident and kills someone. The spouse having too much fun being "happy" and independent didn't pay insurance. Guess who got financially ruined because they are still married.
You also now have the luxury of time to rebuild what you may lose in a divorce. It's much harder to rebuild retirement accounts etc when your older. The wait game rarely works and for all the planning and scheming she can just file one day and screw it all up. It could be next month, 6 months or 2 years from now.
Have the hard conversation with her and see what she wants instead of the guessing game. It's a new world for her right now, in a few months when she realizes it's not nearly as great as she thought she's gonna want more.
Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It's perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we've learned something from yesterday