Update: After I went on a date on Tuesday, she completely freaked out, and started talking reconciliation. I told her if she sets up a couples therapy appointment for us, I will attend and in good faith, suspend dating others during the duration. My therapist also told me it would be good to be completely over this relationship before I start another, and I admit a big part of the thrill of starting to date again was to not feel the pain of my marriage ending. Come Thursday morning, I asked about the therapy appointment, and she was in one of her dark moods and said, "Oh, we're talking about that now? I suppose we should go, just to get closure." So yeah, she's either manic depressive or bipolar, but either way she's in a dark place. It's a holiday week, so next week is the big week. We either go into therapy or we hammer out the Separation Agreement.
That's exactly what I'll do next week with her if she doesn't make the therapy appointment. It probably makes sense to discuss asset division and child support anyway, even with the therapy. I drew up a list of all of our assets, so I'm ready.
I don't think I need to do that. I'm not in a world of hurt and anger. Disappointed, for sure, but the way I see it, she just couldn't fight her depression and mood swings forever. The infidelity was her way of admitting defeat. She really did break up with all the men she'd been seeing, and intends to be alone for a while. She just has to get over seeing me move on.
Dude... you are not listening.
She's a cheater. A lowdown, good for nothing, selfish, lying cheater who has blown up her life and is scrambling to maintain control of you while juggling her boyfriends.
You are dealing with an self-obsessed, disturbed person. She doesn't have bi-polar disorder. She's not crazy. She s a cheater trying to keep you on the hook while waiting for her married boyfriend to dump his wife and move in with her. That's a hard juggling act for anyone to perform. Those periods when she is nice to you are when she is fighting with her OM.
She is playing you. Playing you like a cheap fiddle. Get your head out of your butt.
Lose the house. I'd rather live in a cardboard box under a bridge than live one more day with a woman who has no respect for me.