our divorce will happen next week...great, new year and a divorce .
We were married for 22 years and had ups and downs....he was stationed in Germany when we met got married and left for the states in 1991 . my husband was all these years in the army either active or reserves...In 2007 he had to go to Fort Bragg NC for just 4 weeks for training and as it so happened he met someone there came back home and said that he did not want to be married anymore...well , I fought for a while but I had no chance so we started the divorce stuff and I left for Germany to start my life over...the day I got there he called me and begged me to come back saying he made a huge mistake and so on ...well , I did not come back right away and he came to see me 2 months later and kept begging saying that he could not live without me and needed stability in his life....I went back a month after he came to visit me .
We started to rebuild our marriage which was hard and I freely admit that I had big trust issues after that ordeal....jump to 2011husband got transferred to new city with his company we found a nice place to live which was hard because at that time we had a big dog (Labrador) but we succeded and rented a nice 3 bedroom apt......everything was going great but in august we lost our beloved dog which even now I could still cry just thinking about her...anyway , late October my hubby tells me that he is not sure that he wants to be married anymore and the famous sentence "I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore" came out of his mouth , I also heard that in 2007 , from there on it's all a blurr...he went to an attorney and filed for divorce a few days later....after much investigating , of which I become very good at , I found out that there was another woman...big surprise , not !!!
All I can say that he is in that "affair fog" ...I can't believe that this is happening again after he promised me the moon and the stars in '07 ...this time it's worse because the OW lives right here in the same city and not 500 miles away he is so blinded...all I know is that she has been married twice lives on the alimony from her last husband which ends this coming October and she has a criminal record....she's looking for the next atm machine I think but stbxh does not wanna hear it .
He says he wants to stay in contact with me when I'm in Germany and we will see what happens in the future...I think he wants to keep me warm in case this doesn't work out...I know from other people that they already had big fights .Well , he would have to move to Germany because I'm not coming back again!!!Don't get me wrong I love living here but after everything he put me through I'm so done you can stick a fork in me . It will be hard after 20 years to start over and I'm scared but it just has to work out , right .I've been with this man for over 23 years ...still have to get used to saying that I'm single .
What I don't get is how he can just meet his so called"soulmate " in a bar when he was there to meet a client .
It'a all very confusing .