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post #1 of 6 (permalink) Old 04-12-2017, 11:31 AM Thread Starter
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Divorce hearing

My divorce hearing is scheduled for tomorrow afternoon. I'm the only one required to be present, but STBX is planning on showing up. I'm nervous about going and I'm nervous/scared about what he might do or try to say. ugh. I don't want him there at all. My plan is no eye contact, no verbal contact, no physical contact. Do my thing and leave straight away. Then head to a bar for shots! Maybe do something self-serving to be done with this and put it all behind me!

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Re: Divorce hearing

Good luck.

First round is on me.

Sigh, my wife gives me the speaking treatment.
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Re: Divorce hearing

Cat, who cares what he does or says?

Given all of the evidence of his activities that you have, he has absolutely no power.....except what you give him. If he wants to get ugly you tell the judge exactly what he's been up to.

You can't play nice with a narcissistic manipulator like this. All of the concern you show for him will not be reciprocated.

He's comfortable with you keeping his dirty laundry secret. Don't go out of your way but if he starts with attacks on let it rip.
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post #4 of 6 (permalink) Old 04-12-2017, 05:39 PM
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Re: Divorce hearing

Not surprised to hear he'll be there. He still wants to control the process.

You've done a really great job of getting through this!
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post #5 of 6 (permalink) Old 04-13-2017, 08:45 AM
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Re: Divorce hearing

I remember my divorce hearing, I was nervous as well. I had about ten folders of stuff I had prepared outlining 20 years of marriage, two kids, two businesses, financial and material assets, her affairs...etc. I was also worried my soon to be ex would show up with her affair partner or go into her typical hysterics.

It was less than ten minutes with the magistrate before the hearing and ten minutes before the judge and it was done. All my worries never materialized, and your worries probably wont either.

My only advise is not to ride in the same elevator afterwards....awkward!

Good luck to you.
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post #6 of 6 (permalink) Old 04-13-2017, 12:48 PM
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Re: Divorce hearing

Hope things went off ok and he didn't cause a problem. It sounds like he likes the drama.
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