Re: she is kicking me out :(
You need to wake up partner!
Throwing a plate is probably something 95% of husbands have done sometime or another. Not appropriate behavior, but 1 time in 20 years isn't that big of a deal.
YOU are a doormat. YOU don't count in your wife's mind. YOU are nothing but a paycheck for her and guess what? YOU have set yourself up to CONTINUE to be her paycheck when YOU ALLOW YOURSELF to be kicked out of your own house.
You work all day. You are the sole breadwinner.
Tell me what your wife does on a daily basis. How many kids are in school for 8 hours?
How many are at home all day? What does she get done?
You are worried to death about your wife, walking on pins and needles constantly, I suspect.
Your resentment is building because you work every day while she sits at home with nobody to tell her when or what to do, and you get ZERO respect. So little respect, in fact, that she feels she can kick you out of your own house. LOL!!!!!!!!!!
My advice: If things are so bad that someone needs to leave, ask her to get a job and she can find her own place. I can tell you that "hell no!" will be her answer to getting a job and leaving the home.
SHe has obviously been researching ways to get you out of the house, researching options for HER in divorce on how to screw you out of paying for her lifestyle without her working, and probably home on the internet researching your replacement.
You are having basically no sex with her (not serving HER needs for intimacy/sex)
You are not being quiet enough while she wipes her feet on you (how dare you actually defend yourself when your breakfast you got up early and cooked isn't tasty enough).
And you are a ready-made free paycheck when she divorces you. She knows you'll probably want the kids a lot, and that will give her time to go party/find a new **** without the kids on your dime while you have the kids/babysit for her for free.
Now, tell me that you can talk to her like a reasonable person and that she respects your feelings and your opinions. You can't? Well, there you go!
Here's your future:
Pay her alimony and child support
You work to support her and your kids, she does nothing.
She finds herself a new man and shacks up.
You still work and pay for THEM to live.
She sits up on her rear.
Now, if you want to get the best possible outcome so you might have a decent future for yourself, get a lawyer pronto.
Realize your wife is going to try to set you up for abuse charges and have you put out of your own house. VAR. Video cameras in the home. DOn't let your wife railroad you.