Re: Expenses Sheet for mediation?
That's weird - the only paperwork our mediator required was a list of all assets (house, cars, retirement funds, stocks/bonds, life insurance policies, 529 plans, etc.) and a list of all liabilities (mortgage and credit cards). We didn't have to go into details on personal expenses like haircuts or dinners out.
And since Husband and I were on the same page and are amicably parting ways, we told the mediator we wanted everything split evenly - what's his was his, what's mine is mine, and what's jointly held is split 50/50.
I opted for no alimony (since that gets taxed) - just child support until each child reaches 18 years old, which was calculated using our state's DSS website. Our mediator did bring up the percentage of income idea for dividing assets, but my career is at a place where my salary will begin skyrocketing over the next 5-7 years (and perhaps even surpass his by that point), so even after child support ends I will not need financial assistance from him in any way. And by then I'll only be 12-13 years from retirement to boot.
I can't help with the alimony question, per se, but I think you should keep the list simple - just assets and liabilities, and leave out personal expenses, since some people just have to suck it up and NOT live in the lifestyle to which they are accustomed (i.e., smaller house, cheaper car, less dinners out, using coupons for groceries, etc.).
Married 20 years, currently working on reconciling with husband (originally planned to separate in 2018)
Mom to two young teens