Re: How to get over the urges
Proudwidaddy, I'm having very similar issues right now. My wife hasn't given me the speech yet, she just tells me she needs some space. We're currently in marriage counselling, however living apart. We have come to learn that I have been emotionally abuse towards her and it is something that I am working on, and she's working on healing some of her internal wounds. None of the abuse has in the least been intentional, we had no idea what I was doing to her and I feel absolutely ashamed and terrible about it. I have always been madly in love with her and it is the last thing I would have ever intended to do to her, to hurt her this way.
Today marks 1 month of seperation. The kids stay at the house, we rotate. Married for 8 years, together for 13.
I am so attracted to my wife still it is driving me crazy. The night before we seperated, we had great sex. She loves the sex, I love the sex. Typically 3-5 times per week, and most of the time I spend a lot of time 'on her' if you know what I mean, and we both love it.
Every time I see her at the MC, I want to rip her clothes off and take her right there, she's looking super hot!! I think that it's getting in the way of me being able to 'let her go' and for myself to get on with things. She is not closing the door on 'us', which is a good thing, but I need to be able to work on myself in this time and without being able to have relations with my smoking wife I'm having a hard time!!