Re: I'm too in my head
I think thats one of the hardest thing once the axe falls, you start rethinking EVERYTHING (well I did at least). He had the affair, I got the same love you but not in love speech and bunch of other stuff that still hurts so much to this day and its been over two months. I blamed myself for everything, I wasn't a good enough cook, not affectionate enough, not enough sex, whined too much, and so on. After reading this site over and over you realize that all of that doesn't matter. Your spouse made this decision to leave the marriage for any number of reason and doesn't matter what you did or didn't do, it still would have happened. You have to realize its not because of a fault in you, its a fault in her. Easier said than done but its true.