My husband I dated off and on for about a year and a half before getting married. Our issues started with his alcoholism, once he was in recovery I thought things would be better but it turns out that wasn't even the biggest problem we'd have. His medical conditions include being bipolar, has anxiety, depression and a host of other issues that he's being treated for. I wasn't aware of the "non-clinical" problems that come with these diagnoses. The things that ultimately made me file for divorce are the (1) non stop lying, (2) failure to take responsibility for his actions and the things he said, and (3) his continuous need to be a victim (even if he created the problem he was somehow always the only person that was wronged). It was exhausting constantly defending myself for things I didn't do...and it was draining mentally and physically. I later researched and found that these things are pretty common - wish I'd did that BEFORE marrying this person.
We went to counselling but because he's "never wrong" he couldn't see his contribution to our problems and thus nothing could be resolved. We'd mutually agreed on divorce but now he's coming up with reasons to not sign the papers....its frustrating. No matter what agreements we come to he NEVER honors them so his credibility is non-existent.
Is anyone else going through anything similar?
We went to counselling but because he's "never wrong" he couldn't see his contribution to our problems and thus nothing could be resolved. We'd mutually agreed on divorce but now he's coming up with reasons to not sign the papers....its frustrating. No matter what agreements we come to he NEVER honors them so his credibility is non-existent.
Is anyone else going through anything similar?