maybe this will help
my name is mike and my wife left me back in august. i had a few posts on this forum. i have 3 young children and my wife had an emotional affair after 7 years of marriage. to say i was devestated would be a great understatement. i went through a very dark time in my life up until about november. i had a custody hearing for joint custody of my children in the begining of november. i reached out to my wife one last time and asked her if divorce was really what she wanted, and she said yes. from that day on i said the hell with her. i deserve way better. i know what im about to say will be unpopular to many people, but it honestly saved my life as i had considered suicide back in october. GO BACK OUT. i started going back out and meeting woman again, going on dates,and it has been a blast. im not looking to settle down or be in a commited relationship with anyone anytime soon if ever. my whole expirence has changed my view on marriage as well as relationships in general. i may stay by myself forever. people have no values anymore and marriage doesnt mean sh!t. todays generation just says im unhappy lets get divorced. it wasnt like that back in the 40s, and 50s. people are selfish and all about themselves these days. i would absolutely never marry again, for what, 10 years down the road have someone get bored, and become unhappy and take me for my pension and everything i own,no thanks. if i learned one thing in my expirence with my stbxw its that i dont need anyone, i love me, and im happy with myself. i have 3 wonderful little boys who think the world of me, n thats all i need. all that being said going back into the world and meeting new woman helped me get back on my feet. im sure everyone who has been thrown out like trash would agree that it is a major hit on ones ego. when it all happened i had alot of trouble liking myself, and felt worthless, and undesirable, and above all really down on myself. i know everyone says dont date when going through divorce but i think its b.s. seeing that people value me and like my company, and enjoy being around me really pulled me out of a very dark place that i was in. it saved me. it made me realize that i dont need my dumb a@s stbxw, theres plenty of other woman i could be with. my depression went away, and i havent been on this forum since early november, i used to be on here daily, and it really helped me. my main point of this post is to maybe help someone whos reading this whos crying their eyes out every night, sitting at home being sad and thinking of why they shouldnt blow their head off. GET BACK OUT THERE AND LIVE LIFE. hope this helped, im out of here i got a date at 7.