Gotta love it when they start to feel guilty

Married in VA · 02-01-2012, 09:33 AM

No, I have not filed for divorce. In VA, you have to be separated for a year before you can file. The kids are with me and I have a petition before the court for sole custody of them with her having visitation. As for now, she is out of a home and has no job except some small income from writing online. That is less than minimum wage though. Hopefully, this will motivate her toward getting a job even if it's flipping burgers somewhere.

Jellybeans · 02-01-2012, 09:43 AM

Well she will eventually have to support herself but again, it's not your problem.

Married in VA · 02-01-2012, 09:52 AM

You are right but my biggest concern is she will try to get spousal support. With 3 kids, 2 houses and ALL the family bills, I cannot afford to pay that without something falling through the cracks. I guess if she does that then I can file for child support and get most of it back tax free? Who knows...

Jellybeans · 02-01-2012, 09:53 AM

Talk to a lawyer and she what your rights are. You should file for divorce on grounds of abandonment

Married in VA · 02-01-2012, 09:57 AM

Yes, I am going to do that. Abandonment and adultery. My children can testify to the fact that they shared a bedroom and lived together.

Conrad · 02-01-2012, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Married in VA

Yes, I am going to do that. Abandonment and adultery. My children can testify to the fact that they shared a bedroom and lived together.

What was your wife's childhood like?

Tall Average Guy · 02-01-2012, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Married in VA

Yes, I am going to do that. Abandonment and adultery. My children can testify to the fact that they shared a bedroom and lived together.

Check with your lawyer to see if you can change the locks at your house. You don't want her to be able to easily move back in. I would argue that since she moved out, you don't have any idea who has a key or could have made one so you want to be safe.