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Once divorce is final, I'm greatly looking forward to sitting down with STBXW's brother, with the cell phone log in hand along with some other data, and letting him see for himself, who it is that is at fault in this matter.

I'm sure she has said things to her family that might sully my reputation, and I feel that letting the patriarch of their family know the facts of this case, that it would greatly offer some vindication and closure to me, and perhaps restore some of my good reputation back to me!


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Once divorce is final, I'm greatly looking forward to sitting down with STBXW's brother, with the cell phone log in hand along with some other data, and letting him see for himself, who it is that is at fault in this matter.

I'm sure she has said things to her family that might sully my reputation, and I feel that letting the patriarch of their family know the facts of this case, that it would greatly offer some vindication and closure to me, and perhaps restore some of my good reputation back to me!
Don't count on it. There is a reason she is as messed up as she is, and alot of it is her family.

Blood is thicker than phone log records.
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I second Bandit's "don't count on it statement," though I do think you should expose.

At the very least, It will let her know that you're not the poor, naive sap she thought you were.
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Don't count on it. There is a reason she is as messed up as she is, and alot of it is her family.

Blood is thicker than phone log records.
I've got to differ with you on this one, Bandito! Her brother is a straight-shooter, Christian, business and family man. Like me, he seemingly placates STBXW's kids, but otherwise, he really can't stand being around them. I don't really want STBXW's mother to know about it because she is such a good and decent lady, but rather frail with age.

This is something that could well have the potential to end up knocking STBXW out of a potential inheritance someday!

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I've got to differ with you on this one, Bandito! Her brother is a straight-shooter, Christian, business and family man. Like me, he seemingly placates STBXW's kids, but otherwise, he really can't stand being around them. I don't really want STBXW's mother to know about it because she is such a good and decent lady, but rather frail with age.

This is something that could well have the potential to end up knocking STBXW out of a potential inheritance someday!
Arb, please, please quit spouting "Christian" this "Christian" that. I'm a Christian and Christians have caused me more heartache and pain in my life than any other people outside my Catholic in-laws. He's either a straight shooter or he's not, but I ask you if he is that straight an arrow, why has he not been able to see his psycho sister for what she really is?
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Arb, please, please quit spouting "Christian" this "Christian" that. I'm a Christian and Christians have caused me more heartache and pain in my life than any other people outside my Catholic in-laws. He's either a straight shooter or he's not, but I ask you if he is that straight an arrow, why has he not been able to see his psycho sister for what she really is?
While I may agree with you on the aspects of some "Christians" either knowingly or unknowingly causing others pain, my BIL seems to have a lot more regard for me than for her, or so he gives me that distinct impression. Another cousin of hers actually asked me just weeks before our wedding if I really knew what it was that I was getting into in marrying her.

As a whole, I think that they have all grown so very tired of her, and of her mantra of being a "bully!"

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I second Bandit's "don't count on it statement," though I do think you should expose.

At the very least, It will let her know that you're not the poor, naive sap she thought you were.
That's where I'm at Arb.

Do it because it's the right thing to do.

Don't count on "any" return.

BTW - great job.
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Arb, please, please quit spouting "Christian" this "Christian" that. I'm a Christian and Christians have caused me more heartache and pain in my life than any other people outside my Catholic in-laws. He's either a straight shooter or he's not, but I ask you if he is that straight an arrow, why has he not been able to see his psycho sister for what she really is?
You should know by now there are Christians and then there are other Christians. Just like with everything else.
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I agree. damn!Damn!

Arb, you never had a chance with her ***** like activity.

This woman is twisted........
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Had a very good visit with cell phone company tonight at their local store. They were able to produce cell phone records on STBXW as far back as 6 months from the date she closed her section of her cell phone account in my name. I was told that I can go back even farther, but to do so, I must call the national toll-free customer service phone number and make that request there.

Anyway, in that litany of both incoming and outgoing cell phone calls, two phone numbers seemed to predominate; now all I really need to do is to identify the owner of those accounts, who no doubt, will be the OM.

The cell carrier also gave me her texting usage and it was, in their terminology, abnormally heavy. This firm informed me that they do keep an archive of all text messages, but in order to get them, an attorney must present the request for such, and has to be signed-off on by the presiding judge of the court.
Some good news! Since STBXW was on my account during that time, the cell-phone company informed me earlier this evening that they could start by retrieving STBXW's cell-phone log from January-February, 2010 to March-April, 2011. They retrieved them from their archives and printed them tonight, and would mail them out on Monday~ insuring that I should receive them by Wednesday. They only hit me for a $5.00 service/printing charge which is only fair.

So I guess I'll have about another year and a quarter of her records to peruse and offer analysis to. No telling what discoveries await me.

But since Thursday is my birthday, maybe I'll find something in there that will absolutely be one of the best birthday gifts that I've ever received! Hope springs eternal!

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Further info has come to light revealing that STBXW and OM#2(Victor) made initial contact with each other on or around October 16, 2010.

Being the Physician's Assistant, he is also a former high school classmate of hers, who allegedly had his "heart broken" by her in those days of yore and was reestablishing connections with her for the first time in some 30+ years.

Contacts with him begin on 10/16/2010 and go through 10/30/2010, with a single posting on 8/2/2011.

Cell phone records indicate contact by both parties at an absolute minimum from April, 2011 up until mid-September when the evidence of those calls suddenly ceases. I would expect the older cell phone records to bear out that calls were vastly being made way back in even 2010!

Will post this info up later! Busy day ahead of me!

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Happy BDay in advance Arb.

I hope you find the smoking gun. Maybe a little something to kill a prenup?

I truly think the only way to get your WW to feel anything is to hit her in her pockets.......
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Happy BDay in advance Arb.

I hope you find the smoking gun. Maybe a little something to kill a prenup?

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Hit them where they live.

It's quite clear what she values.

Take it from her.
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That's where I'm at Arb.

Do it because it's the right thing to do.

Don't count on "any" return.

BTW - great job.


Totally in agreement with you Conrad! I don't exactly know what STBXW's "official" story to her family is about me, but I feel certain that it ain't exactly good; something falsely said, I'm sure, that pretty much absolves her.

For the record, you can't get any squeakier clean, reputationwise, than I am. Now if her problem was that she married a poor ex-government worker, then I richly stand guilty!

All I really want to do is to just recover some semblance of my reputation from all of those folks who she has tainted with her twisted, self-serving tales!

Going to Galveston for a wedding this evening! Will check back in late tonight! Y'all have a good one!

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