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Congratulations to both of you! Journalism is a dying art (which needs serious reviving).

Just be equipped with a cross and if she comes near you.... hold it up towards her.


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Congratulations to both of you! Journalism is a dying art (which needs serious reviving).

Just be equipped with a cross and if she comes near you.... hold it up towards her.
She'd probably melt the cross!

Truth be told, I just feel totally unclean to be anywhere remotely around that woman!

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She'd probably melt the cross!

Truth be told, I just feel totally unclean to be anywhere remotely around that woman!

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OMFG....... Had a Linda Blair flashback.

Chances are others will be attending with you. Just have one as a look out.

Heaven knows she is the type to cause a scene.

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OMFG....... Had a Linda Blair flashback.

Chances are others will be attending with you. Just have one as a look out.

Heaven knows she is the type to cause a scene.
She's rich! She's loud! She's outgoing, gregarious, and doesn't exactly give a crap!

You do the math!

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She's rich! She's loud! She's outgoing, gregarious, and doesn't exactly give a crap!

You do the math!

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Just saw this thread for the first time. Sweet Lord, you have learnt a lot in the last few years!
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Just saw this thread for the first time. Sweet Lord, you have learnt a lot in the last few years!
If I had $1 for every great thread I either missed entirely or had to come in near the end....

I would own a 15,000sq ft. Spanish villa off the coast of Naples, FL.

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Arb .... how's Texus holdin up dees dayz?

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Arb .... how's Texus holdin up dees dayz?
Thanks for asking, kind sir! She's still hanging, Chuck! Everything is going just about as well as it can!

I really don't come over to this thread of mine much anymore unless I absolutely haven't gotten anything better to do!

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Good news: My eldest son walked the stage at his college graduation at UT/Tyler yesterday receiving his long-awaited BA in Kinesiology/Nursing.

Bad news: RSXW and her relatively new H also made the trip up here to see him walk the stage. I was rather fearful that I might cross paths with them, being that this learning institution is significantly smaller than the Texas A&M community!

My youngest son, the Texas Aggie grad elected to ride up here with me rather than to endure the trip up here with them as he's living over there with her in that huge mansion of hers gratis, at her insistence, all while he's pondering his future about grad school and the post-bachelor degree-work world.

My Christian principles tell me that I shouldn't feel jaded at her, more especially after the the span of time about running into someone who makes me my blood boil and like someone who blindsidedly sucker-punched me squarely in the solar plexus! I guess that I'm more concerned about making some smarta$$ reply to her if she hurled one of her "crap grenades" first. There are few people that I ever relegate to the "not wanting to ever see or talk to again" untrustworthy-category, but she, along with Satan, is definitely one of them!

God does answer prayers however! The graduation ceremony was rather large enough that there was no "path crossing," although I was totally prepared for it, and the father/sons threesome of us all went to dinner together to fastidiously celebrate his accomplishment alone in peace! Unbeknownst to me, RSXW and her H had taken him to a swanky pre-graduation luncheon and had told him that they were immediately heading on back to their hotel at the graduation ceremonies conclusion!

I know that I probably shouldn't still feel that way about my deceptive RSXW as I've internally forgiven her for her prior transgressions against me and other folks, but I sure as hell would prefer to contract an incurable case of the Andelusion clap rather than to ever want to see a filthy hair on her skanky a$$ again!

So is it, in any way, natural to continue to harbor such a festering resentment of her over such a long period of time?

Was just wondering!

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It's hard to let go of the bitterness / pain of a LT marriage.... add the fact you have children with her. Even though you are D, you

and the RSXW will forever be linked. Graduations, holidays, family gatherings..... all you can do is attempt to not run into her.

I'm guessing she wants to flaunt her what... 3rd H? I just met my XW for the first time in nearly four years. Nothing had changed...

when I looked at her, I saw through her. Just like I did when I stepped into the light in 2013.


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It's hard to let go of the bitterness / pain of a LT marriage.... add the fact you have children with her. Even though you are D, you

and the RSXW will forever be linked. Graduations, holidays, family gatherings..... all you can do is attempt to not run into her.

I'm guessing she wants to flaunt her what... 3rd H? I just met my XW for the first time in nearly four years. Nothing had changed...

when I looked at her, I saw through her. Just like I did when I stepped into the light in 2013.
I'm not really concerned about RSXW's new squeeze as he's a short, little fart who appears to be about as wide as he is in height!

In my estimation, she traded down ~ but then again, that's now her problem!

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She'll fleece him too. And then the next guy, and the next guy, until she crosses the wrong guy and ends up stuffed in a sack and buried under a culvert.
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She'll fleece him too. And then the next guy, and the next guy, until she crosses the wrong guy and ends up stuffed in a sack and buried under a culvert.


These guys walk among us. And live "in" some of us.

I feel the Dark Side stirring.

You? ;-{

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These guys walk among us. And live "in" some of us.

I feel the Dark Side stirring.

You? ;-{
No "Dark Side" here!

Let's just say that she can live her "new life" however it is that she may see fit, as long as there is extremely minimal overlapping over into mine!

Because my presence into hers should always be minimal, if any at all, and should never knowingly overlap over into hers!

I just don't ever want to be unwittingly subjected anymore to either her or her thuggish kids presence into my now rather peaceful life!

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Thursday I believe it was, I had to go into a farm supply store in my former hometown, to retrieve some quotes on an electric fence that we're putting up out here at the ranch!

As I was exiting the establishment, a woman with light shaded sunglasses was entering and glancingly looked at me like she was smelling an obstentacious turd! I thought that it might be my uppity ex-sister-in-law, the younger sister of my RSXW!

Found out just a little later that the probability factor of it being her was pretty damned good as one of my sons had told me that she was in town to help work out on their family ranch!

I sure do miss that passed golden opportunity that I couldn't have used some well-versed greetings line about her lecherous sister as a saluatory greeting, but things like that occur so spontaneously that you rarely ever have the time or the quick wit to ever think about it!

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