Thanks, Happy! If you'd do me a favor, go to my post #78 and give me your honest assessment of what my STBXW was actually trying to accomplish by the writing of the November 5, 2010 email to me from Hawaii, greatly given the timeline that she is either EA'ing or PA'ing with OM at that same time.
Do you think that I messed up by not responding to that email through conventional channels rather than confronting her physically with my answer. Or was the issuance of that email, in your opinion, some form of a convoluded smoke screen? I always appreciate your advise!
Have a good one, Sir!
You asked for my input so I will give it to you.
Your STBXW was playing you. Plain and Simple. She was EA for sure but it does look she was having dates with the OM.
Would anything be different if you had emailed her? No.
She was playing her cheating game and wanted to be romanced by both you and the OM.
Honestly Arb, when you look at her messages and her trips/excursions she enjoyed vacationing without you so she could play her games.
She is a liar, player and cheater all wrapped up in one.
The difference between her and a lot of other cheaters is she has the F.U. money to do what she wants, when she wants and with whom she wants.
And she has the money to play the legal games that she wants too which you are now feeling the result of.
There is nothing you could have done differently. And you know what, sooner or later your boys will see the real side of her as well.
Just take care of you.
And I still favor a midnight raid on your house to get your records and possessions while she is on another one of her trips.