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Has your attorney subpoenaed her cell/text records yet? I mean, yourstbxw is trying to take you to the cleaners and destroy you reputation as well as divide your family.

Oh yeah, she's latched onto your furniture too!



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I will be too when I have the distinct pleasure of seeing you tote that big hog gun down here in Aggieland! Bandito: Those hogs are mocking you! Let's show'em how it's done!
I got some big 405 grainers that should take care of them nicely.

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I got some big 405 grainers that should take care of them nicely.

Get the grille ready.
Y'all give me a shout when you're ready; I swear my SKS was invented for the sole purpose of hog-hunting. Open season year-round and no limits. Ahhhhhh.
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Y'all give me a shout when you're ready; I swear my SKS was invented for the sole purpose of hog-hunting. Open season year-round and no limits. Ahhhhhh.
Think we'll try the FM-2000 area in Burleson County or the West Snook area off of FM-60 where I have land access. Can't get onto STBXW's folks land at the moment, but hopefully that will change soon! Stay tuned!

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I doubt it would have helped with this wife, she just has a screw loose and the money to finance it, but you also need to get Married Man Sex Life for all your future relationship/s. (Not a sex manual but a relationship manual) although when you read it I'm am sure you will see many things that will amaze you in retrospect.
Thanks, Chap: Ordered both MMSL and No More Mr. Nice Guy yesterday and am quite anxious to get into them. For an "old fart," I have probably done enough wrong over the span of my lifetime that it would be absolutely laughable, but at least, for the duration of this old boy's lifetime, I'll hopefully be getting a few more things right than wrong!

BTW, are you sure that you don't already know who my STBXW is, because you have so aptly described her to a tee!

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The mutual "friend" of both me and STBXW, talked with me yesterday and told me that I should just go ahead and expedite things, communicate with the STBXW, and tell her that I can't afford any monetary demands from her. He thinks that she wants out pronto and just wants all of this behind her.

But she is the one who will not answer phone calls and I am somewhat reluctant to place any proposal in writing to her sans approval of my legal counsel. My counsel has heard nothing from STBXW's legal camp, I greatly think, because they are employing a "silence is golden" mantra, waiting for STBXW's side to ultimately cave-in on their own demands, greatly to the point that if she wants out of the marriage, she'll find herself countering her own original property demand proposal just to get herself extricated from the marriage.

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You gave up your lively hood to marry her and , it seems to me, have lost almost everything to what turned out to be a cold goldigger. Tell your lawyer to get her cell/ text records and go after her like a junk yard dog. She is STILL playing you. Let your lawyer have her head and watch your stbxw come around quick.

The reason she is still sticking it to you is she doesn't know what you know. In other words you are doing it to yourself. Being a nice guy isn't all that nice.


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You gave up your lively hood to marry her and , it seems to me, have lost almost everything to what turned out to be a cold goldigger. Tell your lawyer to get her cell/ text records and go after her like a junk yard dog. She is STILL playing you. Let your lawyer have her head and watch your stbxw come around quick.

The reason she is still sticking it to you is she doesn't know what you know. In other words you are doing it to yourself. Being a nice guy isn't all that nice.
Since STBXW vacated her section of my cell phone account taking all of her cell phone lines with her to yet another carrier, and still being in arrears to my account for in excess of $200.00 for her cell phones last billing; I plan on going by my cell carrier later today to request her phone records from 2010-close of her account, basically to get a record of her calls to establish "calls-from"-"calls to," "texts-from," "texts-to," OM's cell and home phone number, et. al.

Also, I'm inquiring if cell phone carriers are required to keep transcripts of customer texts. One person that I visited with, that actually works for one, told me that they believed that FCC rules mandated it and that if I were the primary cell phone account holder(which I am), that I would have full access to it.

Guess I'm really just looking for some confirmation of that here.

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Git er done.

I'm not shooting and field dressing any boars for you until you stick it to her at least once.
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Git er done.

I'm not shooting and field dressing any boars for you until you stick it to her at least once.
My basketball coaching buddy has the neatest wench contraption on the back of his truck whereby he can hoist damn near any size hog right up into mid air and just do his field dressing thing in nothing flat. Like you, he can knock down some nice prize hogs himself. Greatly looking forward to arranging this thing in the near future.


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Since STBXW vacated her section of my cell phone account taking all of her cell phone lines with her to yet another carrier, and still being in arrears to my account for in excess of $200.00 for her cell phones last billing; I plan on going by my cell carrier later today to request her phone records from 2010-close of her account, basically to get a record of her calls to establish "calls-from"-"calls to," "texts-from," "texts-to," OM's cell and home phone number, et. al.

Also, I'm inquiring if cell phone carriers are required to keep transcripts of customer texts. One person that I visited with, that actually works for one, told me that they believed that FCC rules mandated it and that if I were the primary cell phone account holder(which I am), that I would have full access to it.

Guess I'm really just looking for some confirmation of that here.
I think that depends on the carrier. Some won't give up texts without a court order. The time period also might come into play. Some carriers may be easy to deal with.


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The mutual "friend" of both me and STBXW, who is also the FB friend of STBXW who had the other FB chat dialogue that I posted; well, he talked with me yesterday and told me that I should just go ahead and expedite things, communicate with the STBXW, and tell her that I can't afford any monetary demands from her. He thinks that she wants out pronto and just wants all of this behind her.

But she is the one who will not answer phone calls and I am somewhat reluctant to place any proposal in writing to her sans approval of my legal counsel. My counsel has heard nothing from STBXW's legal camp, I greatly think, because they are employing a "silence is golden" mantra, waiting for STBXW's side to ultimately cave-in on their own demands, greatly to the point that if she wants out of the marriage, she'll find herself countering her own original property demand proposal just to get herself extricated from the marriage.
From what I read here, she's telling people one story while doing the opposite and blaming you.


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My basketball coaching buddy has the neatest wench contraption on the back of his truck whereby he can hoist damn near any size hog right up into mid air and just do his field dressing thing in nothing flat. Like you, he can knock down some nice prize hogs himself. Greatly looking forward to arranging this thing in the near future.
And if that doesn't work out, my son-in-law has a tow truck (a "hook").
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I want to bag me one of those fat Texas whitetails too.
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That can happen! But we'll have to do that in season. In fact, at that time of year, you can look for Mr. Whitetail(10 pointer) while keeping an eye peeled for Porky and Company!

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