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post #106 of 633 (permalink) Old 07-11-2012, 11:30 PM Thread Starter
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from what i read here, she's telling people one story while doing the opposite and blaming you.

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Had a very good visit with cell phone company tonight at their local store. They were able to produce cell phone records on STBXW as far back as 6 months from the date she closed her section of her cell phone account in my name. I was told that I can go back even farther, but to do so, I must call the national toll-free customer service phone number and make that request there.

Anyway, in that litany of both incoming and outgoing cell phone calls, two phone numbers seemed to predominate; now all I really need to do is to identify the owner of those accounts, who no doubt, will be the OM.

The cell carrier also gave me her texting usage and it was, in their terminology, abnormally heavy. This firm informed me that they do keep an archive of all text messages, but in order to get them, an attorney must present the request for such, and has to be signed- off on by the presiding judge of the court.

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Anyway, in that litany of both incoming and outgoing cell phone calls, two phone numbers seemed to predominate; now all I really need to do is to identify the owner of those accounts, who no doubt, will be the OM.
Major development~ the two telephone numbers are both cell phone numbers~ one registered to the suspected "OM," ; the other is registered to yet another OM in another part of the state who she apparently spends far more cell minutes with!

Will post again upon completing a statistical analysis! This is beyond sickening!

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Major development~ the two telephone numbers are both cell phone numbers~ one registered to the suspected "OM," ; the other is registered to yet another OM in another part of the state who she apparently spends far more cell minutes with!

Will post again upon completing a statistical analysis! This is beyond sickening!
Arb,

Opens the possibility of exposing one to the other.

That would be quite the feat.
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Arb,

Opens the possibility of exposing one to the other.

That would be quite the feat.
I did that with my H. He was talking to 2 women that he was "friends" with before, ( he was having PA with the one, and then the 2 women were sleeping together also), The women got in fight, quit talking and went back to their H's.... they had no clue he was talking to the other...... Until I let them know!!
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Arb,

Opens the possibility of exposing one to the other.

That would be quite the feat.

The new OM is a prominant physician's assistant who happens to be married with 5 kids. I'm finding that the original OM, a friend of STBXW's deceased first husband, and who was obviously sleeping with her per the FB dialogue, was really only playing second fiddle to this "new guy." Their calls to STBXW were stacking on her as she'd be talking with one and then dropping them to talk to the other! But the minutes expended to this new guy were vastly significant!

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The new OM is a prominant physician's assistant who happens to be married with 5 kids. I'm finding that the original OM, a friend of STBXW's deceased first husband, and who was obviously sleeping with her per the FB dialogue, was really only playing second fiddle to this "new guy." Their calls to STBXW were stacking on her as she'd be talking with one and then dropping them to talk to the other!
Bet you could get some conversations going with those call logs.
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That is insane.....
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So she is nuts and a three timing bimbo....nice.
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Bet you could get some conversations going with those call logs.
And this just from April, 2011 through November, when STBXW extricated herself from the account. I color-coded the bill all last night and will post up my findings when I get back from doing a little work today!

Heck! I sure do need the diversion!


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And this just from April, 2011 through November, when STBXW extricated herself from the account. I color-coded the bill all last night and will post up my findings when I get back from doing a little work today!

Heck! I sure do need the diversion!
I would rather you send copies to your in-laws ,

And her family
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I would rather you send copies to your in-laws ,

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Send it to everybody.
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Send it to everybody.


And all your kids so your sons can see what a "loving" woman she truly is. She has love for everyone Arb!
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As is, her settlement is for me to pay her some 68k of the 250k that she alleges that I owe her for my share of the usage "her money" over the 7-1/2 years of our marriage. My attorney won't even dignify giving her lawyer a response because it is so ridiculous, thus keeping her side in suspense over what is actually going on over in our camp.

A good friend of mine echoed his sentiments that STBXW doesn't even have a clue about what information about her that we now have, and that when my attorney throws her cell-phone call records down on STBXW's attorney's desk, wishing him absolutely the very best in defending them in court, that he's going to go limp, primarily because she isn't being totally honest with him about all of her activities as well as the facts of the case.

As is, we may be able to possibly win a small settlement in addition to STBXW paying all of my legal fees if she wants out. Not withstanding, we'll just try to see if we can break the pre-nup and go after a community property division.

She would not want to endure a trial in that small conservative rural one-horse county, where cheaters are despised as are most wealthy litigants!

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As is, her settlement is for me to pay her some 68k of the 250k that she alleges that I owe her for my share of the usage "her money" over the 7-1/2 years of our marriage. My attorney won't even dignify giving her lawyer a response because it is so ridiculous, thus keeping her side in suspense over what is actually going on over in our camp.

A good friend of mine echoed his sentiments that STBXW doesn't even have a clue about what information about her that we now have, and that when my attorney throws her cell-phone call records down on STBXW's attorney's desk, wishing him absolutely the very best in defending them in court, that he's going to go limp, primarily because she isn't being totally honest with him about all of her activities as well as the facts of the case.

As is, we may be able to possibly win a small settlement in addition to STBXW paying all of my legal fees if she wants out. Not withstanding, we'll just try to see if we can break the pre-nup and go after a community property division.

She would not want to endure a trial in that small conservative rural one-horse county, where cheaters are despised as are most wealthy litigants!
Sounds like the arb has a few tricks up his sleeve yet.

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