Re: Is it best to let her make all contact?
7, I am w/ Daisy, MC would be a must for me. Only because I think after such a disconnect someone who specializes in MC and R will know a better path than I would. Have you all been dating?
I would hope the discussion is not about re-hashing, but rebuilding and course of action for re-building.
I would also want transparency... both ways.
Personally, one of the things I have read about that also interested me is time alone even if it's 30 mins a day and not necessarily late because then we are too tired. My H and I didn't have much at all and it's what really hurt us (I think). In one of the books I read it asked for each person to come up w/ 3 things the other person could do better for their spouse and 3 things that you'd like more of from your partner... little exercises like this I thought would be useful (if only I used them earlier in the marriage. I hope to use them in the future).
I think it's actually a really good thing that you all are talking about the move in, before she does it but I totally understand the nerves of 'what if' she changes her mind or something.
There are two of you on TAM that have your wives on their way to moving back in... Good luck!