Re: Is Retrouvaille effective?
My husband and I went to attended Retrouvaille 3 years ago. It was on a recommendation from my husband's therapist. Neither of us are practicing Catholics, nor are we even Christian for that matter. Without going into details, we were both struggling from an extreme crisis in our marriage. We decided to attend Retrouvaille to help us save our 29 years of marriage, spending our 30th anniversary at the Retrouvaille weekend.
Our experience was overwhelmingly emotional. We couldn't have been more impressed by the courage of the presenters and the support and love of the Retrouvaille community. Through this experience, we developed empathy toward each other and tools of communication that we would never have been learned elsewhere. That weekend and the post sessions thereafter not only saved our marriage, but made us better versions of ourselves.
Retrouvaille, like marriage, is hard work and a major commitment. Both partners need to attend with open minds and open hearts. The biggest idea that my husband got out of it was that love was a decision, not just a feeling. Everyday you should decide to love your spouse by acts of kindness and understanding. We both feel truly blessed that we have been able to stay together, to enjoy life together and plan a future together.