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Traggy · 04-26-2012, 10:30 AM

Small update,

I guess I have blown the dust off a bit and forgot somethings about myself that I am now starting to see. The more I remove myself from thinking about the past and really focusing on the now, the happier and more excited I am becoming.

With the STBXW being out of the house. I can breathe again. I feel a bit less heavy.. It is actually kinda nice. Now, that doesn't mean that I do not miss her from time to time, but I do not miss her as much as I thought I would. Almost barely to be honest. I guess I have been detaching in bigger strides than I thought.

Tonight, is officially the last piece of the split. Can not wait to get this loan and deed transfer done and I can put all this crap behind me.

So about 5pm central, I will be one step closer to signing.

proudwidaddy · 04-26-2012, 10:55 AM

Then about 5:01pm Central Traggy will be opening up the celebatory can of beer!

Uptown · 04-26-2012, 07:57 PM

Don't leave us hanging, Traggy! How did the 5:00 deed transfer go???

Traggy · 04-27-2012, 12:21 AM

Well, the deed papers are signed. The loan is going to have to wait a few more days while it is notarized.

The loan guy kind of messed that all up, not realizing that she needs to be off the deed, else she has to approve the loan. The STBXW got pissed and cussed me out in front of all of the loan officers and stated multiple times she wants no part of anything to do with the house. So, in essence, I get to wait a few more days for them to process that. It is kind of a big mess up on their part, but still I got blamed for it.

LOL, still everything is my fault.

Anyway, she is at least off of the deed, she is just still responsible for half the debt.

Daughter is with her tonight, hope she is alight. I hate not having her here.

Oh well, something was accomplished, just not everything that I wanted done.

I can not wait to get the divorce over with. The only times I am getting upset now is when I have to be around her. I just would prefer to never see her again, but she is the mother of my daughter.

I am doing pretty well otherwise, just a bit of a frustrating day.

bandit.45 · 04-27-2012, 12:57 AM

She blew up because she knows she has blown it.... Big time.

Praying for you Traggy. The end of the tunnel
is near. Stay strong.
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bandit.45 · 04-27-2012, 12:58 AM

The closing on my refinance is next week. Fortunately my STBXW doesn't have to be there.
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Lifescript · 04-27-2012, 10:27 AM

Traggy: Your divorce papers are filed, correct? I'm planning to got the lawyer with the agreement STBXW and I made in paper to start the process (I'm procrastinating this, don't know why) I guess maybe divorce is so final but it's the way to go, no R in this mess. My questions is as I suspect you had a parenting agreement in place also for you was it just as easy as giving the lawyer the agreement paying the fees and filing or are there other things to consider? I wish I was as close to the end line as you and bandit are but I have kind of slowed down with this. Have to finish it. By the way I have to commend you on the way you have dealt with the situation. To see where you are now from where you were in your first post. Life does goes on. I'm moving on and feeling better than ever although I have my moments of anger and missing her (the old her).

Traggy · 04-27-2012, 10:34 AM

We are doing the divorce uncontested and filling out all of the paper work together. We have to take childcare classes before we can officially file, which we are doing in the next two weeks and we are using divorce writer.

We have filled out a custody agreement and everything is done. Just one more hoop before we can file and then I figure in two to three months we will be divorced. If not sooner.

I have made this amicable, because I know how to deal with her. It is the best way honestly instead of wasting the 10,000. I have spoken to a lawyer, figured out the child support to a tee through divorce writer, and essentially do not need to make this ugly. If she breaks her promises, to which I have told her, lawyers will get involved, but I essentially have her because she doesn't want to spend her precious nest egg on lawyer fee's so I have a lot of power to dictate and stand up for myself to protect my best interests.

Lifescript · 04-27-2012, 10:38 AM

Well done. I went to a lawyer who told me it's $600 for uncontested divorce but you know lawyers always find a way to charge more. I wonder if I should use a service. there's a site called rocketlawyer that prepare divorce papers. How does divorce writer work? Is it a website?

Lifescript · 04-27-2012, 10:39 AM

Right now things are amicable between me and STBXW with her usual anger swings now and then but ok so I feel I have to capitalize now and get this done. Who knows when the switch will flip, you know what I'm talking about.

Lifescript · 04-27-2012, 10:46 AM

Went to divorcewriter.com
Looks like this would be easier for me (less expensive). I'm glad I asked.

Traggy · 04-27-2012, 11:25 AM

Divorce writer is nice and cheap and they offer a full refund if the papers are refused.

So its a win win I think.

Lifescript · 04-27-2012, 12:28 PM

Sounds good. As far as you know these papers will hold up in court and are just as good as ones prepared by an attorney? I almost can't believe this could be this easy. That's of course as long as the ex signs the papers. There's always the chance of her changing her mind.

Traggy · 04-27-2012, 12:39 PM

My boss used divorce writer and he had no issues whatsoever.

Lifescript · 04-27-2012, 12:48 PM

Well Traggy sounds like you've saved me some money and no excuse (procrastinating) just have to go online and start the process. Thanks. How's your daughter doing in the situation? My son is doing fine which lifts my spirits. Hope things go smooth for you.