02-21-2012, 05:15 PM
Join Date: Feb 2012
| | Why hasn't he filed divorce?
I needed and still need a sense of direction with the situation I am facing within my marriage.
My husband and I have been married for 3 years going on to 4 within two weeks, with two children under the age of 3, although he has been absent from the home since Thanksgiving night 2011. He has moved all his belongings out of our home. He has stated numerous times, that he is and wants to divorce since his absence, I have been patiently waiting on him to proceed with the paper work, yet nothing has been filed. He has told me to communicate with him only via text or sms, no voice calls what so ever. When we do text it's only regarding our children, or try to keep it children related, at times we have gotten off subject and expressed anger and hurt of the situation. I have asked when he is going to file, his response "I don't have time, I'm busy", but he holds a position that allows him to work 4 tens allowing him to have every Friday off and picks up the children until Friday evening when he wants. Allowing him Friday when courts etc. are open. When I try to ask questions regarding our situation he gets angry and very bitter, and he becomes hard to talk to, and we close our conversation. He's told me he regrets me and every awful phrase that follows after and constantly reminds me of how he don't want to work it out, and my response is "I understand and I respect that just file the divorce". I have picked up a packet to file but don't want to file, I feel he made the decision to move out and suggest divorce than he should finish it and I don't want the regret of divorcing him in the future. I feel like all this is word vomit... but I do need some advice and guidance. I also feel like we both are very immature and young, we married at the age of 20. There is so much that has shaped this decision, he has made although I am focusing on why he hasn't filed or pushed any paper work.... ?