well, it must be the fastest divorce in history.lol. my wife left me at the end of august and here i sit officially divorced. i have posted many times on here but for some reason old posts dont show up. my wife had an EA back last year. married 7 years 3 kids involved. i just dont get it, guess i never will. i think because we married young ( me 22 her 20) she felt it was never right. she became pregnant a year after us dating and i could tell she always felt her life would have been different. but the funny thing is her family was very religious and it was her that pushed to get married. so we married young. she would at times throughout the mariage say that it was never right, never felt right. my question is then why have three kids with someone then? does it make sense to any to you reading this? one kid would have been easy but three. she claims she never loved me like that, like a wife should love a husband, claims she could never picture a long term future with us. then why have 3 kids? i sacrificed so much putting off my dreams of college to support a young family. meanwhile she stayed home and got degree after degree. shes working on a masters now and will be done in june. i worked dead end job after dead end job to make ends meet. i bought a house at 22. most of my friends were living with mom and dad back then. i did my best to provide a life for my young family. i ended up landing a good union job in 07, i eventually got hurt in 2009, and my injury required 4 knee surgeries so my job let me go due to a contract regulation that wouldnt allow an employee out more than 18 months. so im basically at square one, on unemployment. my wife left me at my lowest. she threw me to the gutter like i never mattered, because she was in love with another man. our marriage had ups and downs just like anyone elses, but most outsiders were shocked when everything came about. to them i had a model marriage and family. the funny part is the man my wife was in love with had no kids, a good career, and everything going for him. from all i hear he wants nothing to do with her, all a fantasy in her twisted little head. think about it, what single man in their right mind would want to take on three kids? he has no baggage, why put up with that. despite all of this my wife pushed for a very swift divorce which makes me wonder? why would she push so hard? her backup plan basically was gone. i treated her like gold. never neglected her, or failed to give proper attention to her. when i was young in our marriage i was an ass, and drank and was immature. she said she could never get past that. but i was a stand up family man the past 4 years. i did everything wrong when this ea came to light, begged, pleaded, but i got nothing but coldness. it was like she was in a car accident and lost her personality. i feel as though i dont even know her after spending a decade together. we were very intimate. sex 3-4 times a week throughout the marriage. we even had sex two days before she dropped the bomb. i dont get it. i know my kids are hurting thou. 7,5,4. i cant wrap my head around it. i have been going out with other woman, i never had a problem with the ladies, i just dont get it. i would have never broken my family up for nothing. there isnt a pretty enough woman on this planet i would have left my wife and family for. i keep going back to her just thinking it was never right because we were young. i think she has always thought there was someone better she would have found had she not gotten pregnant. meanwhile i sit unemployed with a bum knee. i can hear her now" once i get this degree it will help us". i feel so used, she never had to work, now shes set up for a great career while all i have done is labor, which i cant really do now because of my knee. i feel so lost. i dont know what to do. i feel like her life will be great, and i will struggle just to maintain metioricrity. i know this woman loved me. she really did, she acts like she never really did, but im no dummy, it was real at one time. im sure ill never hear the words but i hope oneday she realizes this wasnt worth ruining a family over. once the honeymoon phase wears off its basically one set of problems for another.