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Old 02-28-2012, 04:46 PM   #1 (permalink)
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stbx sends me an email how he's glad i seem to be doing well, and proud he is of our son, he's "glad he's with us"...i wrote back there is no "us" according to you so don't use that word and that i don't care to hear how he feels about what i'm doing.

there will be no cake-eating in this house. not a crumb!
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Old 02-28-2012, 05:01 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I know what you mean, mine will say stuff like goodnite, have fun, blech
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Old 02-28-2012, 08:40 PM   #3 (permalink)
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he tells me he never loved me, yet says he "still cares"...yeah ok! god just move out already....(few more days)
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:02 PM   #4 (permalink)
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stbx sends me an email how he's glad i seem to be doing well, and proud he is of our son, he's "glad he's with us"...i wrote back there is no "us" according to you so don't use that word and that i don't care to hear how he feels about what i'm doing.

there will be no cake-eating in this house. not a crumb!

Consider this little twist: H sends email expressing how proud he is of DD, bear in mind that she is staying with him at the moment. Not once has he expressed any pride in DS, prefers to "bash" on him instead. DS just became a father, baby was 10 weeks early and is flourishing and doing so well. Bit of the ol' double standard at play here, ya think?
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:05 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I hate that "I still care" crap.

No, you're nosy and trying to string me along.

UGH! Good for you for telling him to shove it up his butt.
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:16 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I know what you mean, mine will say stuff like goodnite, have fun, blech

Yep, mine says "drive safely", or "I hope you are doing alright." Well, no! I am not doing alright!!!
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:27 PM   #7 (permalink)
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It's because they are guilty.

Asswipes.
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:46 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Consider this little twist: H sends email expressing how proud he is of DD, bear in mind that she is staying with him at the moment. Not once has he expressed any pride in DS, prefers to "bash" on him instead. DS just became a father, baby was 10 weeks early and is flourishing and doing so well. Bit of the ol' double standard at play here, ya think?
wow that's weird...totally his loss!! congrats on your grandbaby!
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Old 02-28-2012, 09:57 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Yep, mine says "drive safely", or "I hope you are doing alright." Well, no! I am not doing alright!!!
Mine will do all this too and "Have a nice day at work" etc. I mean if he were trying to work on the marriage I'd appreciate it, but now wth?

I guess it's better than always being angry/hateful. I guess.
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Mine will do all this too and "Have a nice day at work" etc. I mean if he were trying to work on the marriage I'd appreciate it, but now wth?

I guess it's better than always being angry/hateful. I guess.
The problem with it is that it confuses me. Why is he doing this? Because he still cares of because it makes HIM feel better. I still love him very much, so I hold on to hope. I shouldn't love him though, I should be running in the opposite direction!
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Old 02-28-2012, 10:10 PM   #11 (permalink)
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exactly hilly, very confusing and not fair to us! if you could now be so caring why would you have to leave? it's a joke afaic.
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The problem with it is that it confuses me. Why is he doing this? Because he still cares of because it makes HIM feel better. I still love him very much, so I hold on to hope. I shouldn't love him though, I should be running in the opposite direction!
Yep, I agree... but I will have patience for a little longer. Maybe ... maybe he will come around and want to try. If not... I will be sad and feel very sad/bad for my children (who are already showing signs this is effecting them). I will miss what we had but I won't die w/o him and I will find someone who wants me.
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Old 02-29-2012, 05:16 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Mine has accidentally said I love you twice on the phone this week but he still left. He even gives me hugs and kisses when he sees me. I stupidly let him. Why can't I be strong enough to push him away. I feel like a puppet and his hand is knife deep in my back!!!I just keep on dancing.
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My ex was frequently baiting me with little praises of affirmation (thanks for being such a good father through all this, our son loves you so much) she even has tried feeding me some sort of little apologies via text messages such as "I'm sorry for what I've put you through" etc. I don't bite, don't acknowledge her words and certainly don't reciprocate, she has stopped I think.
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Old 02-29-2012, 05:37 PM   #15 (permalink)
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"cake eating" and my stupidity, ruined several friendships(completely my fault) for me. I was the dumped one. I have learned my lesson and I am keeping away from her. Never shall I be desperate.
Thanks confusion. Never again. NEVER.
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