Maybe I didn't word that as well as I could have. You know of the women I've met I haven't found many to be very interesting even though we've had a few things in common. Could very well be that I am not ready to date and am still in the married mindset.
Could be that you are also looking at the wrong kind of women as well.
You have made great strides in yourself. I wonder if you are looking at the kind of women you dated when you are your old self? Women like your wife?
So she likes show offie jerks. She also like bi-polar. YOu changed. She did not like the change.
Not necessarily, I went through a bad period of ptsd and depression after I left the Navy, and turned into a complete jerk for a few months until I learned to let go of those emotions and accept that discharge was the best thing to ever happen to me. I felt terrible about it later and tried to make it up but by that time she had built a wall towards me. And I guess I chased a bit.
As far as I can figure out this guy was compassionate towards her and ever persistant in trying to tear me down in her mind and replace my position. Everytime I talked to him he was incredibly disrespectful, and now she has adopted some of those traits. I call him a loser not because of his obvious immaturity but because he was always saying he loved her and jokingly asking her to marry him even when we were newly weds and that sh*t was "cute", I guess. Even though she begged him to stop at one point the guy wouldn't. That's a BIG red flag for a LOSER in my book! But you know this guy is going to blow it all on his own without my interference. Just have to wait.
Not necessarily, I went through a bad period of ptsd and depression after I left the Navy, and turned into a complete jerk for a few months until I learned to let go of those emotions and accept that discharge was the best thing to ever happen to me. I felt terrible about it later and tried to make it up but by that time she had built a wall towards me. And I guess I chased a bit.
As far as I can figure out this guy was compassionate towards her and ever persistant in trying to tear me down in her mind and replace my position. Everytime I talked to him he was incredibly disrespectful, and now she has adopted some of those traits. I call him a loser not because of his obvious immaturity but because he was always saying he loved her and jokingly asking her to marry him even when we were newly weds and that sh*t was "cute", I guess. Even though she begged him to stop at one point the guy wouldn't. That's a BIG red flag for a LOSER in my book! But you know this guy is going to blow it all on his own without my interference. Just have to wait.
she likes being EMOTIONAL ...she likes being attended to as she does in the same realm of emotional fiasco...she is a Sentimental ,Emotional Physical "Com-Passionate " one..she likes such a life...where there is emotiuonal entanglement,turmoils and thus uncanny attachments in body and mind..it's a kind of OCD..
I have indicated subtly of what she is made of...now have some wisdom and deduct ..
Could be that you are also looking at the wrong kind of women as well.
You have made great strides in yourself. I wonder if you are looking at the kind of women you dated when you are your old self? Women like your wife?
Oh god I think you're right. It could be that I tend to look for the mother type to have kids with someday in long term relationships, but all I am attracted to at the moment is the damaged girls who require much more chasing to get. I've got to figure out my priorities and find out what it is I really want and what I never want again.
she likes being EMOTIONAL ...she likes being attended to as she does in the same realm of emotional fiasco...she is a Sentimental ,Emotional Physical "Com-Passionate " one..she likes such a life...where there is emotiuonal entanglement,turmoils and thus uncanny attachments in body and mind..it's a kind of OCD..
I have indicated subtly of what she is made of...now have some wisdom and deduct ..
It's much more than that. From what I know of her childhood her parents emotionally divorced but her father was kind of in and out of the picture until November of last year. So you have her trying to keep them together as she has told me, and in the mean time taking care of three younger siblings. That's where the motherly sides comes in.
What I can deduce about her interest in him is that he reminds her of the teenage years she had to give up when her mom and dad first split up and she was taking care of her younger brother at around 15 or 16. Now she is acting now more like a teenager and has even had lip piercings and colored hair, thanks in part to his influence, but had to lose those for her job. This stage is not going to last forever. I remind you all that she is working three jobs to support herself and I suspect her family while this guy drinks and smokes weed instead of pitching in. Yeah, he won't last forever and if was even with the man I am I would throw in the towel; but let's be honest, she cheated down.
The God's honest truth is my wife is not all that pretty, and I passed up beautiful and sexy women I had the choice of taking to marry her. I don't know but it felt like a soul mate connction where I felt I had to give her a second chance when I met her, I couldn't let her get away so I married her, and just when I wanted to kiss her goodbye, I felt it again.
I have considered my options and whether or not I would ever talk to her again after divorce and the only reason I want to give this another shot is because she waited for me in the Navy and was there for me when I tried to kill myself. She had every chance to split and run then. She only left when I took her for granted for long enough when I couldn't bring myself to love her in my state of long term depression. Enter the challenger in the red corner....
Call me crazy but I can forgive her for the infidelity eventually, and give her another shot down the line if she proves she can be trusted again. Any man that can say the same and not hold a grudge or hold it over her head must really be one of the good guys.
You're living in a completely made up fantasy world here. And it's going to get you to miss out on life.
Look - she is gone. she moved to be with him, and she IS divorcing you.
You very very much need to move on and not waste another day making dreams and plans involving her. SHE IS GONE.
Every day of life is a gift - don't waste any of it waiting for someone who has already decided you are not the one. This other guy may not work for her either - but that doesn't mean she'll be returning.
Oh Contrare amigo. My sister is an Aspie. I can see this in every paragraph he writes. Extreme social akwardness and inability to read peoples emotions and body lanuage are the main traits, and these severely hinder his ability to understand his wife's motives.
Aspies are very, very introverted and socially awkward and have a very hard time showing love and affection. They feel it, but they can't show it.
Nsweet is a very high functioning Aspie and his intellect will take him far, but the social akwardness will hamper his ability to have a meaningful marriage. This is most likely why his wife bailed. She, like most people, needs the emotional feeding that an Aspie has difficulty providing.
You're living in a completely made up fantasy world here. And it's going to get you to miss out on life.
Look - she is gone. she moved to be with him, and she IS divorcing you.
You very very much need to move on and not waste another day making dreams and plans involving her. SHE IS GONE.
Every day of life is a gift - don't waste any of it waiting for someone who has already decided you are not the one. This other guy may not work for her either - but that doesn't mean she'll be returning.
you need to find new friends and to date.
I don't know who licked the red off your lollipop but you can save your pessimism for someone else who will listen and accept defeat. I do not believe is surrendering to divorce so easily nor do I openly accept the idea that you can never get your spouse back. Divorce is for quitters! Delayed gratification and determination may be a bit to much for some people to handle but I will remind you I am not like most people.
I had the worst experience at IHOP last night. I had run out of my meds and was having a difficult time keeping it together. I couldn't even think about ordering that disgusting food and just wanted to stay out of public but my mom insisted we do something together. I managed to sit through several depressing suicidal love songs from the 70's and was taking the loud noises from tables talking all at once. Then they played "never gonna give you up" which ticked me off and I completely lost it to some song I can't even remember at this time and walked home. The only thing that made me feel better was realizing I am not the only one thinking this and know my wife is depressed too.
I dissagree, she's on antidepressents and seemed pretty down every time I talked to her. She's lost her dad to another family, grandmother to old age, divorcing me, he made her give her dog to a shelter, she's got a baby sister in need or open heart surgery, taking care of a poverty stricken family, and can't afford her life so she's working 2-3 jobs at once. This was all within a year btw. It may be only for a minute or two a day but I know depression when I see it and after going through the exact same problems I can relate.
As to whether or not she is sleeping with him I could care less. I was a better lover than this loser could ever be and I am sure he's had to hear about it. What I hear from her is that she is waiting for D-day to go all the way and friends of friends tell me he pressures her for sex ALL THE TIME.
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Re: Wife is divorcing me for a complete LOSER! 
. You know of the women I've met I haven't found many to be very interesting even though we've had a few things in common. Could very well be that I am not ready to date and am still in the married mindset.
