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Old 03-04-2012, 03:54 PM   #46 (permalink)
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That's what is messed up, I have to rebuild my ego, self confidence first. I have to change how I acted the last year, no more door mat, no more putting everyone's needs in front of my own. I can be a decent guy without getting walked all over.
You had been taken for granted by the woman and many others..

A Weak One will either be treated as dirt or a door mat...

A Person needs to have A Positive Ego...Thats a Must for Living...even to LOVE & LIVE Well in Wisdom...

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Old 03-04-2012, 03:56 PM   #47 (permalink)
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Wow.

Maybe that's why she left. No offense, but that is very beta male. Not very attractive.

Friends don't eff each other over and cause each other pain on purpose.

That is a very inappropriate thing to say. I think he was genuinely trying to offer an opinion while yours was a low blow more focused on winning the argument


@proudwidaddy, I think you should have blocked her long back. Not as a retaliatory act or knee jerk reaction after she removed your pictures. In that it does seem a little childish but nonetheless, you should move on..

The first thing you should do after a break up is "Lawyer up Hit the gym Delete Facebook "... It is a popular meme

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Old 03-04-2012, 04:11 PM   #48 (permalink)
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It wasn't more of a knee jerk reaction as it was more of finally having enough courage to do what I should've done a while back. Quite honestly I'm sure my stbxw removed the pictures from facebook months ago, as that it what she did with the pictures in the house. It's easier for her not to actually have to see my face, and be reminded about who I was.
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:15 PM   #49 (permalink)
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So a friend of mine told me that my stbxw has removed any and all photos that I was in from her facebook photo log, even pictures of me and the kids.

She has also done that at the house. She is doing her best to wipe away any and all trace of me.

I just can't believe I mean so little to her now.

Don't get me started about facebook.....
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:17 PM   #50 (permalink)
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Don't get me started about facebook.....
Its the tool of the Devil...
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:18 PM   #51 (permalink)
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She did the same thing at the house too, took all the pictures down in the house, except in the kids bedroom. It's like she is making it like I never even existed at all.
It eases her guilt.
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:24 PM   #52 (permalink)
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So let me get this straight, I was the one that was rejected, I took the high road to move out of the house so she can continue her in home day care, she has already introduced a "just friends" person into my children's lives, but I'm selfish because I don't want to have to see what she is up to? ARE YOU SERIOUS???
You need to speak up about her introducing "friends" in her home. These are your kids as well. This is inappropriate behavior and confusing to kids. I told my ex that he is not to introduce girlie to the kids for at least 6 months. And the same for me.....when I start dating.
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:25 PM   #53 (permalink)
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Oh I already had that talk in no uncertain terms
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:30 PM   #54 (permalink)
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Everyone always down on FB. lol. If your spouse used it to do bad things, that was your spouse. Not FB. I am on FB and have no intentions of cheating and don't accept friends from people I don't want to. I don't even reply to PMs on here if they are friendly and not about anything specific...

Glad you had that talk, PIW. Kids don't need to be in this mess.
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:33 PM   #55 (permalink)
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Oh I already had that talk in no uncertain terms
Yeah, but his truck is in the driveway.....
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:35 PM   #56 (permalink)
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I would just once like to bottle up the pain I feel from the rejection, and let her feel it so she knows how the "dumpee" side feels
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Everyone always down on FB. lol. If your spouse used it to do bad things, that was your spouse. Not FB. I am on FB and have no intentions of cheating and don't accept friends from people I don't want to. I don't even reply to PMs on here if they are friendly and not about anything specific...

Glad you had that talk, PIW. Kids don't need to be in this mess.
I'm not big on f/b, never actually looked at H's f/b page when we were together or apart. I still have pics of him and I together and with the kids. I won't take them down, I really don't care. But....what I was pissed off about was the fact that he changed his status to "in a relationship" for everyone that we know mutually to see, including some of my family, and I have to answer questions. I hadn't told anyone that he was dating, now all of sudden people are asking me what the story is.
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Old 03-04-2012, 04:40 PM   #58 (permalink)
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I would just once like to bottle up the pain I feel from the rejection, and let her feel it so she knows how the "dumpee" side feels
You need to go on some casual dates to make you feel better, nothing serious, but just to lift yourself up a bit ..ya know?
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What would that prove to her? That her decision to leave was right and she should have contempt for you. She already feels this pain and doesn't need any pressure to be reminded.
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Old 03-05-2012, 10:40 AM   #60 (permalink)
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What would that prove to her? That her decision to leave was right and she should have contempt for you. She already feels this pain and doesn't need any pressure to be reminded.
What the hell are you talking about? What pain does she feel? She screwed him over.

So you are one of those people. You know, the folks that say if someone punches you in the face you should just turn the other cheek instead of kicking their teeth in?

Keep it up.. there are plenty of people in this world that would just love to keep beating you down.
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