03-19-2012, 09:28 AM
Join Date: Mar 2012
| | Re: First Post.....
Originally Posted by MeetVirginia
I would look for him to be genuine (I have known him long enough to know the difference), so boost his self-esteem and admit that he also has unhappiness, for him to be a more positive person and not constantly be putting people down and commenting on people by how they look (calling a co-worker "muffin top" or generalizing all drivers from another state "freeloaders"), being more careful with his language and actions around our children. If I can see these things over time then I may begin to feel like he is truly trying. I dont want him to be a completely different person, but more like the person I met 20 years ago. I understand that people change some over time, but he has become negavie and angry, and I cant live with that. I dont feel like I am ready to make any decisions as of now.....I have only been out of the home for 6 weeks. I have a year lease, and I feel like we have plenty of time! Is this the info you were looking for?
Yes, it is. Initially, my wife told me to sign a 7-12 month lease and to not expect to move back at the end of the lease. I understand.
Back in January, when I expressed doubts about proceeding with the divorce and wanting to try everything, I mistakenly coupled that heartfelt request with mentioning what a change it was going from 2 good salaries to individual salaries with dual services to maintain standard of living. What she got out of that conversation is that I want to save the M because I am afraid to live responsibly on my own and that I wanted her back to maintain a great financial lifestyle. It's like I step in it, whenever I least expect it.