So talked to lawyer, and it will stay "my house" no matter what, and he has no legal rights to any part of it. He gave me good information that helps protect me. I'm getting money out of my credit union and setting up a separate checking account for myself, and going to get my paycheck deposited in that account also.
Said since only married 9 years, I would be able to receive a small amount of spousal support for a little while, just not long term.
The only part that was kinda funny was me explaining to him about what a keylogger is that I have on H's computer. His response was " Uhmmmm,, that's not in my notes, and we didn't have this discussion.