Does your wife's family know about her affair? Are they enabling it?
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Here's the thing... I'm working on getting past it. She still doesn't think what she did was all that bad and she has her family convinced he's just a friend who is lending an ear. I have zero desire to try and convince them otherwise. I feel like putting effort into trying to "expose" her affair is only going to have me dwelling on it that much longer and I don't want to be in the situation.
She's made this decision. I'm trying to move past it and worry about me now.
Since yesterday I've tried to focus more on taking a hard 180. It's been damn difficult at times, but I know I have to do it.
I went out today and hung out with my brother for a few hours and now the kids are back home with me. The contact I've had with her since she took the kids yesterday was her calling to let the kids say goodnight to me, her calling at 1:30 today to ask where I was (she just got home with the boys), and me seeing her for maybe five minutes before she left for the rest of the afternoon. I asked nothing in either phone conversation, I gave short answers to the couple questions she asked (how was your day type stuff) and never responded with, "how about you?".
When I came home at 2:00 she asked if I had fun today, I said, "Yep." Then I talked just to the kids, asking what they'd done at grandmas, what they did today, and if they had fun. After a minute or two she said her goodbyes to the kids, told me she'd be back tonight, and started walking out the door. I stopped her and asked her if she was going to clean up the stuff her and the kids had laying around from the 30 minutes they were home. BOY did this ever strike a nerve. She picked up the stuff, said a in very annoyed voice, "I'll be back later", and out the door she went.
All that said, my body is feeling VERY stressed. I can't seem to calm myself enough to relax for even a minute. It's very tiring, but the act of trying to rest only makes things worse. Even sitting here and typing this feels very taxing.