Re: being forced into divorce My family hates my husband and he hates them
Thanks for your post Elegirl. It makes me look at where my family is coming from . My Husband has made allot of changes since we got married and I have been an idiot telling them all the bad and none of the good making him look like a monster. Your right I need to stop acting like a dependant child. But there is allot more to the story then just this. My family has made no effort ever.
I am and will forever be the outcast. If there were problems in the house no matter if I was there or not they were all my fault. I have been kicked out so many times for nothing it is crazy (this is before my marrige)
They resented me for leaving and getting married and would call me to do things for them all the time. If I said no then they wouldnot talk to me for weeks and would never come to visit. I would have to go there, My husband always told me that he was number 2 in my life.
I am not bashing them, I love them with all my heart but they will never allow me to have my own life. More times then I can count I have been there for them when they needed me, so why is it so hard for them to do the same. Why cant they just let me try and figure things out without making it about them. Why cant anything ever just be about what I need.
I have worked all my adult life and supported other family members and never said a word(I still wont i didnt do it so people would reconize me for it I did it becuase I love them) But the minute that I need some help I have to be made to feel like a piece of **** for it? Who tells there daughter that they spent money to come see her in the hospital so why was her husband there? Who does that? Who said one minute that if he comes to the hospital there is hope and then when he does and stays with me I am a dumb ***** for having him there? What kind of mind games are they playing? I am sorry for the angry post, its just killing me I would never ever make them feel guilty for visiting them when I am sick, or tell them they are stupid for having there husband there seperated or not when they are scared that something horrible is happening to them because it made them feel akward.