So this morning after dropping the kids off at school, I had to run their stuff back to the ex's house. While there she runs into the bathroom, her phone blew up with texts. Yet again some strange mans name on the phone. This happens all the time. Why do I even still care if she wants to act like this? She clearly doesn't give two ****s about me.
Oh when I was there she also asked me if I'm ok, that I seem mad. Are you serious? Posted via Mobile Device
sorry proud - seems like a lot of us had a bad weekend, i was hoping it would be better for all of us today- hang in there, wish i had something better to say today but still kinda recovering from this weekend myself
I didn't even mean to look at her phone really, it was on the counter, I guess it was a naturally reaction. It just seems that every week there is a different man texting her, she is doing her best to replace me, wipe my existence out of her mind.
Oh I don't let her see it upsets me, I'm short with her when we talk, I don't give her much. She asks me what's new, I say nothing. I just can't believe how much she changed really.
she is doing her best to replace me, wipe my existence out of her mind.
That's what you should do as well. Not necessarily have sex with random women but go out, have date's and minimize your exposure to her. Each and every time you see her, you're back to square one.
I really am getting to the point of hating her! Just to see her now, how she operates under a totally oblivious nature, God I can't believe this used to be the woman I loved, and would've died for. If the roles were changed, I would at least wait until the divorce is final.
But I guess that is because my heart is still functioning, I have morals!
I didn't even mean to look at her phone really, it was on the counter, I guess it was a naturally reaction. It just seems that every week there is a different man texting her, she is doing her best to replace me, wipe my existence out of her mind.
She's not going to be able to replace you, Proud. You're a good man. I almost feel sorry for. By the time she realizes how much she's screwed up her life, you'll have moved on and found a woman who knows a good thing when she's found it.
Oldgirl,
Thank you for that comment, it made me feel good. My frickin blood is boiling right now, I need Bandit to smack me with a 2x4 to get my right I think.
I just have to realize that she is such a vain, self centered, self absorbed person right now, who doesn't even deserve my thoughts anymore.
Let some other man have her now, let some other man put up with her ways. She is not the person that I would want anymore anyways.
It's still tough, but I have to remember while another man may be with her, they will not replace what I had with her.
You are not the only one that sees this, hence the reason for a different guy every week. I mean we guys may be dumb, but not stubid, we can see a self center, selfish b!tch and as you can see, this will be her life, and one day she will wonder why she is alone.
It has to suck to have these emty connections, especially for women, these guys will just use her and move on. Believe it or not your STBXW is sorry person, she just doesn't see it yet or masks it very well.
Agree with the guy. You think she's going to change just because she's with other men. She will be the same person with all her negatives. Others will not tolerate her behavior and dump her. Maybe it's going on right now.
Feel lucky you don't have to deal with her anymore. It's natural to fear change. I'm going through it right now. It's not easy but I'm adopting a new attitude of F her. I get an opportunity to live life to the fullest now without all the BS and unnecessary stuff. I now there will be days when I won't feel as energetic but I just have to deal with it and get on with my life. Proud you'll be fine.
I really am getting to the point of hating her! Just to see her now, how she operates under a totally oblivious nature, God I can't believe this used to be the woman I loved, and would've died for. If the roles were changed, I would at least wait until the divorce is final.
But I guess that is because my heart is still functioning, I have morals!
You've got to hate her. I'm struggling with much the same thing, as you know. I, fortunately, do not have to see her ever again by choice. I'm trying, trying to hate her because thats how she acted towards me at the end. She treated me like a stranger, with dissregard and no remorse. No other emotions. Remember all the horrible things she did. Remind yourself that she is out there messing around while you are still legally married. That is just wrong. That shows you what she thinks about you and the life you had together. All just smoke and ashes now. Smoke and ashes. Everything about that life, aside from your kids, is gone. Doesn't apply anymore. Hate her, hate the life that she's started to live.
Maybe in a few years, you can try to be friends again, but right now focus all your emotions towards her as hate and anger. Sounds mean, but thats what she did to you.
I think it's very hard to hate someone who's the mother of your children. There's a connection there that can't be broken. Personally, I'm working on feeling indifferent towards my wife. I don't want to hate her but instead not care or be affected by how she's doing or what she does. I think when you hate someone it has the effect of keeping that person in your life althought that's not what you want.
Not sure if this analogy is good but it's like a baseball team. I'm a Mets fan and hate Chipper Jones of the Braves. This year he announced his retirment. I will hate rooting against him. I hope I made my point.
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