05-30-2012, 03:34 AM
Join Date: Oct 2011
| | Re: My wife says she wants a divorce. Any help appreciated?
How old are you and your wife? Just a word of caution. You are so caught up in collecting evidence that you are letting your wife put the kids in dangerous situations. Your wife is going off the rails. Going by the suicide letters, she is having a mental breakdown and is in a self destructive cycle. Sooner or later, she will put herself and the kids in a dangerous position. The OM is likely a predator and he feeding on your wife's metal illness. And who knows what the crowd around him is like, so exposing your kids around him should be unacceptable.
Try getting your wife into some sort of therapy. offer an incentive in the divorce to go the therapy. She needs it. Tell her that what she is doing is very dangerous to both the kids and her in calm and non-confrontational manner. Imply that you know more that what she assumes you know without revealing anything major.(I know you are cheating but I don't care) The marriage is dead but the kids need a mom, alive and mentally sane.