I want the kids!

So I get home last night after work about 5:20 or so. Go see my kids in the living room and sit and hold them. Wife comes in and says she was thinking about going to the store. She didn't go during the day because my son is a little sick etc. That is fine. I ask what she had in mind for supper? Nothing was her reply. Then she asked the kids if they would like soup. So she goes to get ready and leaves about 5:45. I check around the house to try to see what she did all day. Dishes were done, half a load of laundry and that was it. Oh she did change the sheets like I asked too. So I get supper and feed the kids, also do the rest of the laundry she had started. After supper we get cleaned up and go play a little then PJ's for bed. I read a couple books and put the kids to bed at 8:00 as I am tucking my daughter in my wife comes in with the groceries. IT IS 8:15 BY THIS TIME. Makes me wonder what all she did because 2-1/2 hours seems like a long time to go to the store. Maybe I'm just letting my mind play games with myself?

I planted a voice recorder and listened to some of that. She was on her secret phone for about an hour and a half with her whatever guy. She would have stayed on longer but my son was crying. He couldn't breath very well with his stuffy nose. He was yelling for me so I got up but my wife said she got it as I walked down the hall. And she said it again but I said he was calling me so I came. In the end I let her handle it, told my son night again and went back to bed.

All this spying and sceeming against my wife really sucks. It pains my heart that we are in this mess but I have to do it to win my kids.

This process is so long, I wish we could just fast forward to her moving out and me having the kids. I hope I can win the kids. There is nothing more important!

Traggy

Will you please get a lawyer already.

I want the kids!

We both have lawyers. She filed April 10th. I had talked to my lawyer April 9th.

Am I missing something? I don't know anything about this process and worry I picked the wrong lawyer. Any pointers will be welcomed.

I want the kids!

So today my wife was going to Sam's club grocery store (they have an open house this weekend so you don't need to be a member to shop) I asked if she was going to take our daughter. I wanted to see if she would make a fuss. She took her. As she was leaving she aske if it would be alright to go out to lunch with our daughter. I said "i guess so" she took that to mean no. I then had to smooth that over. I told her I didn't say no, it is up to you I just needed to know if I was feeding the family or just me and my son. She calmed down and left at 10:45. Got back at 2:30. Didn't get luch because they had snacks at Sam's club (samples) then my daughter told me they stopped at a park but she didn't get to play. The slide was wet and other kids were on the swings. Mom sat and talked to a guy on a bench she told me!! I felt sick. I asked if mom introduced her, no. I probed a bit more but my daughter is only 4 (5 next month) so she isn't a good source, doesn't knowwhat to keep track of etc or a good judge of time. But I tried to give the benefit of doubt but the more I think of it, since my daughter didn't play why did they stay? It had to be a meeting or something. Really hurts that my wife is doing this in front of my daughter. Now I have been thinking of ways to catch her in the act but have not come up with anything. I want to get more specific dirt on my wife so I can have it in court.

She is out again tonight to see our son perform at a local bar. He is part of a "dance" show. She left at 5:45 and the show doesn't start until 10:30. She used the same tired line "her friend Deb" is going too. Actually my Bro is going so I called him and he said he was going around 8 or 8:30 and my wife was meeting him there. I asked he keep notes and report back. I'm sure she will be on her best behavor in front of him. I don't think my wife knows that he knows we are splitting.

I am getting more insecure everyday. I can't trust anything my wife says or does for that matter.

Any pointers to add are welcomed.

Should I try to get a GPS unit for her car? I am on a pretty tight budget.

keko

Definitely a GPS. You can find plenty of decent priced ones on the Internet with fast shipping. Make sure to buy one with real time tracking.

Which phone she has?
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I want the kids!

Any suggestion on the GPS?

I'm not sure what phone she has it is a secret. She doesn't know that I know she has it. I have seen it but only for a slit second here and there. HJC or something like that thru US Cellular. She guards that hink like crazy. I don't know where she hides it sometimes. But it can't be far from her.

keko

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Other then her phone is she using computer a lot? Emailing and such?

Did you place a VAR in her car? You can even find tiny ones to place it in her purse.
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Her phone has the net on it so she never uses the computer anymore. I wish she would because I could get a lot from that but owell.
I have a var in the house so I can see how she is during the day with the kids.

I was going to try it in her car too but only have the one.

keko

If you can buy another VAR for the car. If GPS is too expensive, have a friend/family follow her when she's out one night.

Who's paying for her phone bill?

For just incase, install a free key logger in the computer. She might just end up using it one day.
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I want the kids!

The bills are all paid by me sort of. She just got our tax return back so she is using that for everything. It is a bad deal. My lawyer says I'm sorta stuck because if she would leave she could take the kids and file for support until she got work etc. so I am stuck just doing the satis quo My lawyer said it will come out in the wash so to speak later. I'm not so sure but if it keeps my kids happy and at home with me it is a small price to pay.

I may take a day off work and follow her during the day? I don't know. It really doesn't matter but I would like the evidence to use in court.

keko

For following, ask a friend to do the initial following. If both of you leave at the same time it'll be suspicious. Once your friend tells you were she is at you can go and check her out, maybe even take pictures.
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So she met a guy at the park yesterday and today. Both times with my daugther in tow. I grilled my daughter a little but didn't want to push too hard because she has no idea what anything really means.

Then my daughter brought it up at supper and told my wife to tell me what happened at the park. My wife played it off like he was some husband she knows that just happened to be at the park with his kids. What a bunch of crap. two days in a row?

Also she didn't get home until 6:40 this morning from going out last night. She told me that one of the performers moms was in town for the show and she got too drunk so my wife took her to her hotel and stay with her until the morning. I don't know if I buy that either. Sounds like crap.

I know it makes me feel like crap even if it isn't true but the fact my wife didn't tell me and my daughter did makes me think it has to be planned. Stinkin cheater.

keko

Why are you letting her into the house when she is screwing other man till morning?

I want the kids!

I don't know how to get rid of her and keep the kids at the same time.

My lawyer seems to think there isn't a good answer to this issue.

I live in a no fault state so she can pretty much do what she wants and take the kids and make me pay her to do it.

Sucks big time!

keko

Do you know if she is going out anytime soon?

Ask your lawyer if you can get exclusive use of the marital home and temporary child custody.