My wife says she wants a divorce. Any help appreciated?

I want the kids! · 05-04-2012, 11:49 AM

Went to Divorce Care group yesterday. It was OK but I had to start where they were in the program. I listened and took their info in. The one lady running the thing is on her 3rd marriage and she disagreed with the video we watched. I wanted to tell her she wasn't doing what the bible said but I kept my mouth shut. She was very chatty. I will most likely go again but it does take time away from my kids so it is hard to do. I feel I need to do as much as I can with the kids right now. Not only to look good in court but because I want to and they need me.

the guy · 05-04-2012, 12:11 PM

Hows the journel going? You are writing down her comings and goings right?

It sound like she is settling for one guy so give it some time and get some info on this guy, if she starts a relationship and this guy and he is a convict, then you have a better chance to keep the kids.

If you can get his number, then thats a start, you can then get a name and do a back round check on him.

If your WW if associated with alot of rifraf then it will be better for you in court.

I want the kids! · 05-04-2012, 02:16 PM

I write something down every day. Not sure it is the right stuff but basically everything that goes on that day that I know of. then I review the recordings too. I think this guy is a massage therapist but can't be sure. She talks to him all the time and ignores the kids. I don't know if all this will help me but it can't hurt me.

I want to get pictures of her with him but have no idea how to sneak around that much. I may have a line on a GPS unit my boss is willing to loan me. He had drill this week and said he would try to capture his route with it as that is what I will need to do.

the guy · 05-04-2012, 02:24 PM

Don't forget to writen the amount of time she is away form the kids.

keko · 05-04-2012, 02:31 PM

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Originally Posted by I want the kids!

I may have a line on a GPS unit my boss is willing to loan me. He had drill this week and said he would try to capture his route with it as that is what I will need to do.

Take his offer as soon as you can. Do you have any close family or friends nearby? Have them follow her and take pictures.

I want the kids! · 05-04-2012, 02:46 PM

I have a brother but he isn't very stealth. What I may do is take a day off work and borrow a friends car. ?

keko · 05-04-2012, 03:03 PM

That's kind of tricky. Who are you going to leave the kids to? How are you going to leave the house right after your wife leaves?

I want the kids! · 05-04-2012, 03:44 PM

My wife is a stay at home mom so I'll just go to work as normal, switch cars with someone there and then go back and wait for her to leave etc. The trick is since she is a stay at home mom I have no idea if she will go anyplace. I'll have to capture her meet up schedule from a recording or something maybe? Seems like she goes someplace everyday though. She has said on one recording that she typically drops my son off at the sitter on Tues and Thurs.

Stay at home mom with a sitter. yep, makes no sence to me.

keko · 05-04-2012, 03:54 PM

Try the GPS on her car, if she doesnt leave the house that day you'll just be wasting hours.

arbitrator · 05-04-2012, 04:41 PM

In any shape, form, or fashion, do not even begin to entertain any act of violence against anyone, no matter how much you want to. It will do them absolutely no good, and it most assuredly will do nothing to positively posture yourself with your family, friends, or the legal community!

I want the kids! · 05-04-2012, 10:53 PM

I'm cool as a cucumber my friend. Keep all the guns locked up tight too. Also the ammo is locked in a second location.

I'm not real angry about any of this, I just have to keep my kids.

Shaggy · 05-04-2012, 11:01 PM

Drop a gos onto the car she drives. Get one that logs where it is even if you aren't watching it at the time. Earn her pattern land then show up mid moment and spoil the fun.
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I want the kids! · 05-04-2012, 11:04 PM

Hoping to do just that. Seems she likes the park thing hopefully it won't get too hot too soon so she keeps doing that. I really need to scope the park out and see where I can get photos from.

keko · 05-04-2012, 11:06 PM

From the VAR recordings, can you guess a time she leaves? If you can't get the GPS right away you might try going to the park at that certain time.

In the mean time keep the journal going as how she is neglecting the kids and you are the primary care giver.
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I want the kids! · 05-07-2012, 02:24 PM

I am still recording and trying to figure out how to catch her red handed.

But have a question, Why would my WW lie about what goes on at home to the OM? She told him that she bathed our kids together and I got upset and then confronted her about it later in the evening. She didn't bath them together last night? and she doesn't know that I know she did it the other day. She also talked about sunbathing nude and letting my son run around naked outside. Seems like the OM is a nudest or something and she is feeding him what he wants to hear. Seems odd.

Any input here?