05-14-2012, 09:41 PM
Join Date: May 2012
| | Re: My wife says she wants a divorce. Any help appreciated?
I haven't read all of your postings as I am a newbie, but I also reside in Iowa and I can tell you from the divorce proceedings of some of my friends - Iowa is a no-fault state. You may be able to prove infidelity, but that doesn't prove she is an unfit parent. And in Iowa, infidelity has no bearing on child custody. I know that's not what you want to hear, but I would urge you to stop what you are doing. Your efforts in this State will get you no where, even if you had footage of her and the OM having sex. She may be a horrible wife, but that doesn't reflect on her parenting skills. At least not to the judicial system here. Spend your time and energy on your kids. If your kids are in her care and have consistent physical injuries, photograph and document them. If they are displaying signs of emotional struggles, take them to a counselor. If they admit to a third party they are afraid of or don't want to be with their mother, try to get documentation of those conversations from the counselor. Otherwise there's not much you can do, and in Iowa getting full custody of the kids from the mother is extremely difficult to do.
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