My wife says she wants a divorce. Any help appreciated?

Shaggy · 05-07-2012, 03:16 PM

First cheaters lie. To everyone including themselves and OM.

Could she be trying to make herself more attactive to the OM by feeding him things that get him going.? How sick is the guy I wonder?
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I want the kids! · 05-08-2012, 09:04 AM

I wonder too. I have to get more detail on him but how?

I want the kids! · 05-08-2012, 09:05 AM

Any cops on here want to run a name?

I want the kids! · 05-10-2012, 11:54 AM

Talked to a couple PI's, they are too expensive. I tried to get a GPS at bestbuy but they said they didn't have anything that tracks Like I want.

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I want the kids! · 05-14-2012, 10:10 AM

So I met with my lawyer Fri to give him all the evidence I have to date and he e-mailed later saying that all my recordings are illegal to the point of being a class D felony. He said I should stop too. I can record if I am in the same room as the recorder but WW is alway nice around me and keeps her secrets. This stinks. Those were a lot of my case.

I did get some pictures at home after the meeting. I staked out the back yard to see if WW was going nudist again and she did. With the kids!

Any more advise that is legal for me? I don't think my case is looking so good anymore.

keko · 05-14-2012, 11:09 AM

COVERTLY RECORDING TELEPHONE CONVERSATIONS

If your state is one-party then you can use the recordings if you are in the same area. If you're not, you can still record it(illegally) but you can't use it in court.

Keep recording to her to listen if she has any plans to screw you over. She might be getting advices from her OM and toxic friends.

I want the kids! · 05-14-2012, 12:00 PM

I plan to keep recording but it is risky. Class D felony is no joke.

Shaggy · 05-14-2012, 01:57 PM

is your lawyer trying to help you or is he just telling you to roll over and be passive?
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I want the kids! · 05-14-2012, 03:56 PM

I don't know. This is the only lawyer I have ever dealt with. I hope I don't get screwed too badly.

Conrad · 05-14-2012, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by I want the kids!

I don't know. This is the only lawyer I have ever dealt with. I hope I don't get screwed too badly.

Get a second opinion.

You only have one chance to get this right.

SoVeryLost · 05-14-2012, 09:41 PM

I haven't read all of your postings as I am a newbie, but I also reside in Iowa and I can tell you from the divorce proceedings of some of my friends - Iowa is a no-fault state. You may be able to prove infidelity, but that doesn't prove she is an unfit parent. And in Iowa, infidelity has no bearing on child custody. I know that's not what you want to hear, but I would urge you to stop what you are doing. Your efforts in this State will get you no where, even if you had footage of her and the OM having sex. She may be a horrible wife, but that doesn't reflect on her parenting skills. At least not to the judicial system here. Spend your time and energy on your kids. If your kids are in her care and have consistent physical injuries, photograph and document them. If they are displaying signs of emotional struggles, take them to a counselor. If they admit to a third party they are afraid of or don't want to be with their mother, try to get documentation of those conversations from the counselor. Otherwise there's not much you can do, and in Iowa getting full custody of the kids from the mother is extremely difficult to do.
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I want the kids! · 05-14-2012, 10:05 PM

All the work I am putting in is to prove I am more fit to care for the kids than she is. I know the OM doesn't matter but if she does something in front of the kids that looks bad it may help me. I don't have much evidence yet but will keep trying. Every little bit may help. I write down everything. Like tonight after supper she went down stairs and left me to play and take care of the kids. She popped up from the basement just to say goodnight and back downstairs. I continued to play and read books until I put the kids to bed. She came back up a little while ago and said she was going out with her friend "Deb". I simply said "have a good time" and wrote it down.

Another thing that is in my book is the fact WW uses a sitter and is a stay at home mom. Why does she need help caring for our kids now and how will she be better in the future? Maybe this doesn't really matter but I hope so.

Any other pointers you may have are welcomed.
Thanks,

keko · 05-14-2012, 10:08 PM

Keep a record of that as well and I hope it's not with your money.
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Shaggy · 05-14-2012, 10:10 PM

Stop giving her money for going out and fir paying babysitters.
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