Re: My wife has told me she needs a break...
She's trying to disqualify herself hoping you'll push her away so she doesn't have to feel responsible for ending the marriage on her terms. Either this could mean her acting out of terms over an excuse to leave or intentionally trying to leave clues behind so you'll push her into an affair. You simply have to trust your gut about an affair. And I would start cancelling joint accounts and prepairing yourself for the absolute worse immediately. Not to alarm you but.... you better get your emotions under control ASAP and learn to agree with her. Trust me on this one, I had to face a BS restraining order and not pitch a fit when I noticed a hickey on my wife.
The big signs I saw that may clue you in besides wanting a break and not telling you she loves you are.....
Did she start mentioning a friend repeatedly over the last six months? Maybe a man/woman that she keeps wanting to tell you about. She may have been seeing this person for a while but can't quit so she's hoping things will work out and she doesn't have to face the grief of ending her marriage over an affair. Look up "women's infadelity" it will tick you off but it explains a lot.
Is she hanging around any one woman or group of women that are divorced and into the pathetic 30+ party scene? This could be someone with a rocky marriage, but they give you the stink eye when you see them.
Did her sense of humor or likes/dislikes change all of a sudden, but when asked her interests, stories, and jokes are quickly forgotten.
Has her working schedule suddenly changed within the past six months, yet she is wishy washy about her time off.
Does she tell you she needs space when you are by no means bothering her? If you text her or call her on her lunch break does she return your contact in a timely manner or does it take her hours or until she comes home to talk to you.
Have you noticed a change in her walk from stiff to swaying and free in the same day? I'll explain this one later.
Has she been talking about expensive things she wants, vacations, fancy living arrangements? For examply does she keep bringing up a new car when you both can't afford one at the moment and you old one works just fine?
Has she thrown away or gotten rid of things you have given her?
That's all I can thnk of for now. Your mission should you choose to accept it will be to get some proof that she is either talking to or physically emotional with SOMEONE SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU TO KNOW ABOUT. Anything you can gather from a FB profile, to a pic, to recorded conversation or even phone reccords. Easiest way would be a phone reccord proving she has been calling the same number over and over for long periods of time..... you get that and you can reverse the number to find the persons name and address. If you can get a ahold of her computer you take it an expert who will unlock it with a hash file (for windows not sure about mac) and you can either find a stored password for her email on her computer or install a good key loger. You get into her email account and you can not only see her conversations but where she and the other person sent them from exactly (like the exact house). Phones are harder to trace without a court order and 6-8wks. The easiest way would be to get her to respond to an email and then trace that.