04-21-2012, 12:05 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Just a Piece of Paper
Well, my H has mentioned divorce for the first time since he told me the marriage was over 6 months ago. I have gone to as little communication as possible since a conversation we had earlier in the week.
My H wants me to move on, but also wants us to live together as roommates. At one point in our talk I said that I married for life and that we are still legally married. He told me that our marriage is over and the legal part is just a piece of paper. He actually told me that if I kept trying to save the marriage that he would divorce me.
I don't want a divorce, I want to try to renew our relationship and have a better marriage.
My life right now is like we are divorced except the financial impact and the pain of going through the actual splitting up our joint property. I am lonely, sad, and trying to find ways to fill my time like going to church, volunteering and spring cleaning the house. My H uses our home to sleep a couple nights a week but he is with someone else most nights. We haven't talked to each other except briefly on the phone for several days.
It is killing me to feel as if I am giving up. I know I need to do things for myself and I am working on that. Giving up is not what I want to do. I want to work on the marriage.