Sorry i didnt mention all of that!
We have been married for 5 years. (hes been in the military for 4 this aug). We were together 4 months and got married (really quick i know!).
My son in school is 6. He started school down there in sept, he was at that school for 2 weeks, and then started school up here and was in school here 2 or 3 months before he asked me to move back down. I have been dragging my kids up and down from Maryland to North Carolina 5 or 6 times within the past 4 years because of deployments, training, and then him kicking me out.
He kicked me out in oct because we fought a lot. He just got back from Afghanistan a year ago and he said the fighting on top of his mental issues from being deployed drove him to his breaking point. But he got back from Afghanistan and did nothing but sleep, he skipped work all of the time, and did nothing. i was pregnant and doing everything and i use to nag him to do stuff around the house (take out the heavy trash, mow the lawn.)
He got kicked out of the army from doing drugs back in Oct after i left. He did join a drug rehab group on base and got help for the drug issues.
I did offer to move back down there once my son was out of school and offered again and he said no it was too late.
I think the relationship would work better up here. We had a pretty good married when we lived up in our home state. We have no life outside of our kids in Nc. We had NO relationship at all because we knew no one good enough to babysit our kids so we never have any a lone time. When we come up to MD to visit we get a long so well because we can get a babysitter and go out and have us time.
The relationship is really complicated because he has a lot of mental issues from being deployed, but he wont talk about how he feels, what hes going through and what happened over there.
im doing all the wrong stuff though. i have texted him a few times angry and starting fights. I wish we could reconcile, but dont know if we can over come this. A lot of mean things have been said and i have filed for child support because he hasnt been helping financially since we ended things again a month ago.