Mama's update...

Mamatomany · 04-30-2012, 11:00 AM

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Originally Posted by canguy66

Wishing you the best as always, Mama. The road to a better place and one that offers better options for our future is not an easy one, but definitely one worth the effort. We're here for you anytime you need to vent and need support. Cheers!

Can, I am not going any where! I need you all still too much

I think being away and having someone to talk w/ on the phone has helped too.

Lifescript · 04-30-2012, 11:14 AM

Good to hear you're doing fine Mama. You can do it online, I'm using divorcewriter.com but only if it's uncontested. Be careful though not to get screwed. Read everything.

Mamatomany · 04-30-2012, 12:44 PM

I actually will wait and see what he is willing to do and then have a lawyer look over it I think. I don't trust him (hence the divorce - lol).
Can I ask what state you are in?

Lifescript · 04-30-2012, 01:10 PM

I agree with Dean. If online, take it to an attorney for review. I live in NY.
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Mamatomany · 04-30-2012, 03:53 PM

Thanks y'all.
I think I will let him show me what he thinks we have in debt and assets and what his suggestions are on how we split... then I will know where we will differ. I have done all the bills since our last big blow out, but I know he has incurred more debt as he has moved out. He is saying he is trying to be frugal w/ the money but then he wouldn't be taking dates to expensive restaurants if that was the case. So I am sure he is avoiding discovery etc.

Mamatomany · 05-01-2012, 09:11 PM

So my friend has decided I am too raw and that he doesn't want to be a friend right now...

Back to scratch...
Really would one of you great TAMs men just come down here!!

jpr · 05-01-2012, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Mamatomany

So my friend has decided I am too raw and that he doesn't want to be a friend right now...

Back to scratch...
Really would one of you great TAMs men just come down here!!

awwwww....I am sorry, Mama. boo!

Mamatomany · 05-01-2012, 09:15 PM

yeah, I feel so rejected, yet again.
Cryin' like a big stupid baby.
I thought to myself on Friday I wasn't ready to date...
Then on Sunday... I need someone who will be there... Maybe I am still just too needy. D@MN it.

jpr · 05-01-2012, 09:28 PM

You are a wonderful person, Mama. You shouldn't take it personally (I know that is hard not to do). But, maybe you do need a little more time?....or maybe this man just wasn't the right fit for you? It is always hard to feel rejection though---especially right now. But, that is the risk we all take when we try to make connections with other people.

C'est la vie!

Either way, you will be okay---and you have plenty of cyber-friends who love you and support you.

Mamatomany · 05-01-2012, 09:33 PM

Seriously could Bandit bring his 2x4 and start smackin' some people for me!! ???

Mamatomany · 05-01-2012, 09:36 PM

I will be okay. For the last 4 days the stbxh is also trying to talk about divorce and settling things. I just didn't need rejection right now. He said let's still be friends and maybe when your feelings aren't so raw you will be ready...

I think it's been so long since he has been in a relationship that he doesn't like any kind of feeling...

Lifescript · 05-01-2012, 09:38 PM

What a freakin' loser. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe this was not going to workout for you anyways. Boooo!

Lifescript · 05-01-2012, 09:40 PM

But ... maybe he's not a bad guy and just wants to take it slow knowing what you are going through. Mama please be careful a lot of men are on the lookout for women going through what you going through thinking you are at your weakest -- emotional and needing someone.

Mamatomany · 05-01-2012, 09:42 PM

I know, I didn't expect it to be lasting. We clicked so well Saturday, then I have a couple of emotional days and he's out of here.... He also made me feel judged (it maybe his passion) but I really liked this guy. Fine.... he was probably too old for me anyway! Yeah! That's it... maybe my youth and kids scared him off!! LOL (or was it my neediness, let's just say it was because I was 12 yrs younger!)

Lifescript · 05-01-2012, 09:45 PM

Loser! Got scared. You'll find Mr. Right. Be positive and keep making progress like you have been.