Re: New Marriage--He wants out
It sounds to me like he is passive-aggressive.
I've been reading a book titled "Living with the passive-aggressive man" by Scott Wetzler. This is not just about men, but how to recognize, understand, and deal with people with this trait.
From the sounds of it, I don't think it is necessarily an affair (maybe greener pastures are calling his name), but he is sending you on a guilt trip to excuse himself of any mental burden.
Has he been direct on what is bothering him, or is it that he just wants out? If the latter, I'd say pack your bags, look for a support system, and don't look back. He is disrespecting you, but he may hold on to some resentment from the past. Do you really want to live with all this baggage? Or do you think you can resolve the situation with professional help (counselors)?