This is hard.

jpr · 07-13-2012, 11:10 AM

I love Settlers of Catan....so much fun.

I have a couple of expansion packs for it too.

Perhaps you will appreciate this?...

Traggy · 07-13-2012, 11:14 AM

You are too cool JPR!

Traggy · 07-13-2012, 11:24 AM

Just be prepared to lose at anything we play and just know I am a sore loser and super competitive.

We all have our flaws!

jpr · 07-13-2012, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Traggy

Just be prepared to lose at anything we play and just know I am a sore loser and super competitive.

We all have our flaws!

Hahaha. I am the opposite. I am not very competitive, but somehow I manage to win at almost everything.

...but, I do it sweetly and with a smile, so it won't hurt that bad when I kick your a$$.

canguy66 · 07-13-2012, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by unsure78

jpr dont settle for someone that doesn't get your "geekiness". I too am a total dork and I made that mistake with my ex, all physical connection and he really didnt have anything upstairs. I will never make that mistake again, I aim for someone who has both the mental and physical ( actually at this point im more into the mental than physical cause looks will fade eventually) . Physical is fun for short term

Well said, and I agree 100%.

My girlfriend (feels so good to type that) says she loves me for me, loves everything about me including that I'm a little bit geeky (and so is she).

Don't settle.

jpr · 07-13-2012, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by canguy66

Well said, and I agree 100%.

My girlfriend (feels so good to type that) says she loves me for me, loves everything about me including that I'm a little bit geeky (and so is she).

Don't settle.

Don't worry, Canguy........I won't.

....I am no where close to settling....just playing around a bit..

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jpr · 07-13-2012, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by jpr

Don't worry, Canguy........I won't.

....I am no where close to settling....just playing around a bit..

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....although, if Traggy decides to make his way East sometime, then I may reconsider my previous statement.
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Traggy · 07-13-2012, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by jpr

....although, if Traggy decides to make his way East sometime, then I may reconsider my previous statement.
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Oh to dream.

jpr · 07-13-2012, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Traggy

Oh to dream.

jpr · 07-13-2012, 03:17 PM

Ugh. I was just sitting here being all sad about Traggy being so far away....

....I get another email from my stbxh. We are going back and forth about a life insurance policy that is coming up for renewal. I want to change the beneficiary on the policy to be someone other than my ex-husband....in case of my untimely death. Given my ex-husband's track record and mental health issues, I thought it would be wise to just have a 3rd party be the beneficiary. (...like his parents or my parents or a sibling or something). That way, I would know that the money was actually going to support my son, and not to support my ex-husband's electronics habit.

He finally agreed with me to change the beneficiary, but then he always has to write some sort of comment that makes me feel badly for him.

Today he ends the email with this line....

"i've failed at everything else. i won't be a deadbeat dad."

bah.

He is feeling sorry for himself, and I desperately trying not to feel anything at all for him. Statements like that make me roll my eyes....but they also tug at my heartstrings.

...bah.

Traggy · 07-13-2012, 03:23 PM

He feels that way because he knows he is somewhat being one.

jh52 · 07-13-2012, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by jpr

Ugh. I was just sitting here being all sad about Traggy being so far away....

....I get another email from my stbxh. We are going back and forth about a life insurance policy that is coming up for renewal. I want to change the beneficiary on the policy to be someone other than my ex-husband....in case of my untimely death. Given my ex-husband's track record and mental health issues, I thought it would be wise to just have a 3rd party be the beneficiary. (...like his parents or my parents or a sibling or something). That way, I would know that the money was actually going to support my son, and not to support my ex-husband's electronics habit.

He finally agreed with me to change the beneficiary, but then he always has to write some sort of comment that makes me feel badly for him.

Today he ends the email with this line....

"i've failed at everything else. i won't be a deadbeat dad."

bah.

He is feeling sorry for himself, and I desperately trying not to feel anything at all for him. Statements like that make me roll my eyes....but they also tug at my heartstrings.

...bah.

Hang in JPR -- it will get easier as more time passes !! <<<JPR>>>

jpr · 07-13-2012, 03:26 PM

I know, Traggy. I just don't want to hear about his feelings. I don't want to really know what he is going through.

I don't want to care.

....I don't want to think of him as a human being with feelings.

karole · 07-13-2012, 04:01 PM

You should consider having the beneficiary set up as a trust for your son's benefit rather than a third party.

MyselfAgain · 07-14-2012, 11:04 PM

Ok I just saw the posts about Settlers and Battlestar Gallactica. At first I triggered because this is stuff I shared with my stbxh. I have the last 2.5 seasons of BG on my DVR and haven't watched them because they remind me of him...if you guys will let me share about them here, maybe I can get through them without losing it. :/ (FYI, I am also a closeted geek. Everything from the Trek to the History channel.)