Re: Time to file for divorce!?
sounds like you want someone to tell you you're right, and it's okay.
If you're so sure it's the right thing to do, why do you need validation? Are you sure you love her? From some of your other posts, she couldn't possibly ever do anything well enough, or right enough, or look good enough, or be skinny enough, or quiet enough, or young enough, or enough of anything, to satisfy you.
Those are my thoughts. Just trying to be completely honest with you. I think you have unbelievable expectations, and in this post above, not once did you take any of the blame, you laid the Entire thing on her shoulders. Semantics, maybe, just didn't mention in this post that you had a hand in making it go south, maybe? and maybe you admit that you did play a part, but the way you come across makes it seem like she's been the one for 21 years ruining Everything, while you sat back, the perfect, fit, gorgeous, not fat, spouse, and were under her evil spell. it's almost Never all one persons fault.
I would run to file if I were your wife. If you are so convinced that it is over, then I suppose the only thing to do is move on. I wouldn't want to be with someone that wanted to change every single thing about me, to suit their needs. I don't blame either one of you for wanting a divorce, I don't think maybe you were suited to each other. Good luck.