I would go for great romantic feelings. As for great sex, been there done that. Haven't really done the romantic stuff properly.
I know this is hypothetical but I agree with Mama, romance and great sex should go hand in hand but you can have great sex without the romance. One is making love, the other is making lust.
I'm holding out for a connection first then sex... and hopefully with the right person for me. I'm a relationship type of guy.
I had decent sex in my marriage. Now I'm looking forward to making love with someone. How's that for a realization? In hindsight, I think I felt I made love to my ex-wife maybe 1-3 times. Sex was frequent and fun for a while, but ultimately just a release.
I'm holding out for a connection first then sex... and hopefully with the right person for me. I'm a relationship type of guy.
I had decent sex in my marriage. Now I'm looking forward to making love with someone. How's that for a realization? In hindsight, I think I felt I made love to my ex-wife maybe 1-3 times. Sex was frequent and fun for a while, but ultimately just a release.
That pretty much sums up my thoughts as well. I think great sex is greater when you have the romantic build up to it. However, even when you are in a romantic relationship, I think that the occasional spontaneous wild abandonment type of sex adds to the relationship as well.
More than 18 months for me and while I am looking forward to sex again, I definitely need there to be a connection. I want someone who makes me feel like a woman again, all the romance and compliments and hand holding all over again just like when I was younger. Although sometimes I do think I should just pick up a guy (maybe even a younger one) and just get it done with. I only have been with one man, my H, so this will be a very new experience
That pretty much sums up my thoughts as well. I think great sex is greater when you have the romantic build up to it. However, even when you are in a romantic relationship, I think that the occasional spontaneous wild abandonment type of sex adds to the relationship as well.
Definitely. A good mix of making love and wild sex works for me. I had that with an ex-gf before my ex-wife... and it was amazing.
Definitely. A good mix of making love and wild sex works for me. I had that with an ex-gf before my ex-wife... and it was amazing.
Yes!!!! You ARE my soulmate.
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Good thing you don't live closer to me, Canguy, because I want to "play the field" for a while. But, just wait!...after I am done having my fun, I am coming for you!
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Good thing you don't live closer to me, Canguy, because I want to "play the field" for a while. But, just wait!...after I am done having my fun, I am coming for you!
Hey, what about me? It was my thoughts that Canguy was responding to. Blue walks off, into the sunset, head hanging, a broken man, rejected yet again...............
Hey, what about me? It was my thoughts that Canguy was responding to. Blue walks off, into the sunset, head hanging, a broken man, rejected yet again...............
Sheesh right now all you would have to do is buy me a cheeseburger from McDonald's and I'm yours for the evening. I'm afraid my willy is going to fall off by the time I get to use it again. Posted via Mobile Device
I have had lots of great sex in my time, but a real emotional connection? Not so much.
I agree that you can have great sex without romance, but if you are really into someone, even 'mediocre' sex can be good if you have enough foreplay.
That's one thing that has always irritated me about my STBXH, I'm easy...like, a little flirting and teasing, some kissing and neck nibbling and I'm mostly there already...it doesn't take much...but apparently even THAT is too much to ask LOL!
The next 2 years can't go by fast enough... by the time I get out of here and actually get divorced I'll probably want it for a week straight!
Would you rather have great sex with only mediocre romantic feelings with the other person, or mediocre sex but great romantic feelings? Posted via Mobile Device
Interesting question... great romantic feelings, I have hands Also sex can be worked on, but great sex and not great feelings, been there, not that great in the long run!
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Also sex can be worked on, but great sex and not great feelings, been there, not that great in the long run!
