Re: Therapist says kids will be ok from divorce
Friendly, not friends. My ex wants to be friends, go out for coffee do the family thing...hello, we're not together anymore.
I think that if the parents can seriously put their differences aside for the sake of their kids, they can recover from the divorce. Some parents have no clue how destructive they are towards their kids because they're just caught up in their own pain. Talking negatively in front of the kids is the worst thing a parent can do. That in itself is very truamatizing for kids. Routine and consistancy is key in order for the kids to adjust.
I've only been separated for three months, but I can see the difference in my kids behavior since it first happened. They are adjusting ok, not perfect, but my ex is pretty reasonable that he never says a negative thing about me to them, keeps the same discipline I do, same rules etc.