Re: THEIR vaca in OUR spot
Thank you for responding. For some reason, I'm a thread killer on this site. For real. Personality just doesn't come through in my posts I guess. Maybe, too, I should have put this in the fam/par forum. I'd move it if I knew how.
Anyway, to answer your questions-
1- separated beginning of May 2011
2- He moved right in w/her. They were talking & seeing each other for a year b/f he moved out.
3/4- We don't have anything official in place. I know I sound stupid, & I'm totally getting shafted financially. I've called lawyers, but they want the retainer up front, & I just don't have it. A few friends told me their lawyers let them make payments even on the retainer, but they turned out to be sh***y lawyers. I'm hoping I can borrow the $.
5- I absolutely agree w/you, & I worry a lot about how this is going to affect my son, especially since he knows the truth (not all the details) but doesn't seem too phased by OW's actions. He's met her & thinks she's awesome. I kept him away from her, but they live four hours away, so w/o a lawyer's help, I couldn't keep saying no. My son has been to their house twice. The first time, I insisted OW not sleep there. I was the bad guy, though. My son actually said he was disappointed in me. He didn't want things hidden from him & wanted them to act "normal" when he was there.
I've accepted that my son is going to be around OW. If they were going on vaca anywhere else, I wouldn't like it, but I'd let him go. It just seems really wrong that they're wanting to take my son on a "family" vaca to the exact house he stayed in one year ago w/his actual, now broken, family. The morning after we got back from that vaca, my H left. It's all really twisted, isn't it?