05-17-2012, 12:03 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | trying to sext with me...UGH!
My stbxh is 6 hours away. Have not seen each other since Jan. He ended things in march. No other woman, he says i nag too much, etc.
I posted a few days ago about wanting to be some what friends because we have kids together and how he is always mean to me by the end of the conversation. One 3 and one who just turned 6 months old. Its just easier to get a long than it is to argue every time on phone. I have read the divorce remedies and i have taken some advice in there about backing off and being positive and i should see a change in him. Well i have backed off and i have been super nice to him. I dont question him about what he is doing and i do not allow him to question me. I have texted him a few times the last 2 days because our 6 month old starts saying dadda, so i sent him a video of that and today i asked him the easiest way to get somewhere. Well the last 2 days we have made small "chit chat" and every time we talk he ends up trying to be sexual with me, trying to sext, etc. I tell him no every time. This is not really like him, he has not been with many women (2 before me) and he just has never been a very sexual person. Now it seems like thats all he ever thinks about. I told him i am trying to be civil and get a long with him but i will not go over the line. Im also not going to have sex with him when he comes up soon to visit our boys. Itd just be weird because he treats me so uncaring and to be honest when he tries to 'sext' it just makes me angry. I do not want to be used or treated like im just a piece of booty. I am always polite and just tell him no i want to be friends and thats going over the line then he says he was just kidding. I am not really sure what to make of this. He also asked me if i wanted to hang out and go to the shooting range when he comes up. I am not sure i should do this because i dont want any false hope as to thinking we can work things out because we cant. He is staying in NC and i am staying in MD and he has told me he is not changing his mind about working things out, he is really done this time.
I do have to admit though, being positive and backing off, not questioning what he is doing, not getting angry when he talks about going out and stuff has really paid off. I feel better about myself and he has been nicer to me.