I know this is childish but i dont wanna give them back..
I know this sounds childish but my STBXH wants all his baby pictures/teenage pictures. I AM going to give them back but i dont want to. I dont want him showing his new gf his baby pics and them fantasizing about what their baby will look like.
ugh. Im going sunday to meet him half way and really dreading it. He knows i will not go out of my way to let him see the kids anymore, this is his first and only time.
The best thing i can do is give the pictures back (which i was planning on doing anyways even though i dont want to!!) Makes me sad
I know this sounds childish but my STBXH wants all his baby pictures/teenage pictures. I AM going to give them back but i dont want to. I dont want him showing his new gf his baby pics and them fantasizing about what their baby will look like.
ugh. Im going sunday to meet him half way and really dreading it. He knows i will not go out of my way to let him see the kids anymore, this is his first and only time.
The best thing i can do is give the pictures back (which i was planning on doing anyways even though i dont want to!!) Makes me sad
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Re: I know this is childish but i dont wanna give them back..
After the divorce to my son's father, I kept a family portrait with the three of us in it so that my son could have a picture of his family in his bedroom.
Re: I know this is childish but i dont wanna give them back..
I'll share what I did. I constantly fought the urge to deface and destroy any pics that had Lie in it. But I couldn't do it. So, the ones of his grandparents, parents, those from his childhood (lost alot in a housefire while growing up) I made sure got back to him, intact.
Over the last year, I've run across pics of his nieces/nephews that had been sent to us over the years. Those I put in a mailer and sent to his mom, they are her g'kids after all. Any that had me in them, if possible, I snipped me out of and sent to her as well. No note, no return addy, but the handwriting is unquestionably mine.
Others of us and the kids thru the 24 years we were a family will be divide and saved for the kids. I'll have to get 2 memory cards for the computer saved ones.
Being the sentimental slob I am, I couldn't do anything else. To me, pictures are to be treasured. Yeah, sometimes it hurts me to see STBXH's face, but I just remember that the guy I once loved so much no longer exists. Those pics are proof that, at one time, we were happy.
Re: I know this is childish but i dont wanna give them back..
Im going to give them back, im just going to take the pictures of me and my son and the pictures of him and our son (that i paid for!) and keep them for our son.
I am meeting him half way, not to give him the pictures but because he has only saw our 6 month old once and he hasnt seen our 3 1/2 year old (or our 6 month old) in 6 months. He is about to get kicked out of the army and my counselor and i have discussed the situation and she said the same thing ive thought all along - eventually he wont come around anymore. I want my 6 month old to meet his dad and my 3 1/2 year old misses his dad and cries for him often. It isnt about what he's done to me, its about my kids. I didnt have a dad growing up and it is important to me that my kids have a dad.
Im not going to act childish....honestly i woke up today feeling like i just dont even care anymore. I thought id feel anxious and upset today since we are meeting tomorrow but i dont care.
Also, i am giving the pictures back and killing him with kindness, i do not need any ammo against me for him to bash me to his new girlfriend (yeah he did leave me for a girl, a teenager at that). But doing mean things just gives him ammo to bash me to her, and for her to be "perfect" in his eyes. After tomorrow im going completely dark (i already sorta have been. We have barely been talking) but tomorrow im not talking to him at all.
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I know this is childish but i dont wanna give them back.. 
