06-09-2012, 11:34 PM
Join Date: Feb 2012
| | Re: How do you tell the kids? 3 & 5 year old.
Well I can't find it but basically I was fighting back tears the whole time and she was very whatever. They were 2 and 4 at the time.
We waited till she had her new place and then, together, in the living room of her place sat them down and said mommy would be living here now. They didn't think much of it until we told them that they would have a new room. They were excited about that. We went to their new room and hung some stuff on the walls together, made the beds, etc. They had alot of fun w/ it making it their own.
I had alot rehearsed on "mommy and daddy love you" and that kind of stuff but they didn't even pay attention to it. Again, they are very young though and I expect that it will be a thing that comes up year after year.
My X will likely be shacking up soon so that will change things drastically for them I'm sure. I have a solid IC who has a ton of experience with this stuff so I plan to prepare with her ahead of time.
I would say the best thing was that we were able to do it together and show them there was no hostility.