Help, I am new to this forum. I have been separated for three months now. No specific reason, just a lot of fighting. We have been together for 10 years, we have two children ages 4 and 6. He moved out, and we had a rough couple of weeks. I went to see a lawyer and so did he...I thought it was hopeless.
Then as time passed, he started coming around as lot more. We have a business together so I have to talk to him daily. He started taking me out on dates, spending time with us as a family (even more than ever), spending the night, etc.
Now I am at a point where I think it is time for him to come home, I am feeling like he isn't committing to me that he will be coming home. I feel like it is an unfair situation, he sees me when he wants to... and then leaves if he wants to. He spent four nights at the house last week and this past weekend.
I understand I need to give him space, but shouldn't I have some indication whether he is going to work it out with me at this point and come home? My friends said actions speak louder than words, and I believe this...but I need to hear it?
I feel like I am in a limbo game with him, I need some security. He is happy living separatley, why wouldnt he be? I broke down and told him today that I need more from him...which then turned into a fight...but I really feel like this is so on "his" terms. I also feel like I have done nothing but try to move forward with him and have not got much back verbally (commitment to moving back home) Stuck... don't know how to feel anymore. I feel like I have been happier with this new relationship, but sad when he leaves...I am just not happy because it feels unfair to me.
Thanks
Then as time passed, he started coming around as lot more. We have a business together so I have to talk to him daily. He started taking me out on dates, spending time with us as a family (even more than ever), spending the night, etc.
Now I am at a point where I think it is time for him to come home, I am feeling like he isn't committing to me that he will be coming home. I feel like it is an unfair situation, he sees me when he wants to... and then leaves if he wants to. He spent four nights at the house last week and this past weekend.
I understand I need to give him space, but shouldn't I have some indication whether he is going to work it out with me at this point and come home? My friends said actions speak louder than words, and I believe this...but I need to hear it?
I feel like I am in a limbo game with him, I need some security. He is happy living separatley, why wouldnt he be? I broke down and told him today that I need more from him...which then turned into a fight...but I really feel like this is so on "his" terms. I also feel like I have done nothing but try to move forward with him and have not got much back verbally (commitment to moving back home) Stuck... don't know how to feel anymore. I feel like I have been happier with this new relationship, but sad when he leaves...I am just not happy because it feels unfair to me.
Thanks