06-20-2012, 09:47 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Re: Having emotional flash backs since my husband had to leave state
I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you! It sounds like a lot to deal with at once and insecurity at this time is completely understandable. I am glad you and your husband have reconciled, that was step one and a biggie. However, I am sure you are anxious to find normal again.
Do you have children? If not, perhaps you could go stay with him at the extended stay place. If so, maybe a visit during the weekends (or whenever he's off work) and for alone time perhaps the grandparents wouldn't mind watching the kids every once in a while.
I can understand why he may not want to rent the house you mentioned if it is located in another state from his new job. Long commutes can take their toll (and are quite expensive). If you do visit him on the weekends, maybe looking for an alternative nearby could be something you do together.
Stay strong and remember that these things take time. The big theme I am discovering here is that we must take care of ourselves first. I am slowly starting to realize the truth of this. I hope you can find a way to nurture yourself during this stressful time and keep the emotional flashbacks at bay.
I wish you all the best.