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Old 06-21-2012, 03:35 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I get home from work and check H's keylogger on my email.. and lo and behold he has changed every password to every account "in his name"....

He had already left to go golf,,, so I proceed to take every item of his in the house and threw it all in a pile out in the yard!!!!

Texted him that he needs to come by after golf....

Gave him no explanation.... so he leaves golf and ..... plus I have him locked out of "MY" house!!!!

He then tells me that he did change them, but if I wanted to ever see them to just call him and he would of come over for me to go through them all...... F*ck that!!!
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I hope that you will be okay through this very trying time.
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Sorry to hear that Numb...
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Sorry! I guess there comes a time where it's really not worth it....and he really knew how to push it.
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Old 06-21-2012, 04:05 PM   #5 (permalink)
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why do you have to check up on him with a key logger to begin with? just from this one simple post, not knowing you or any back story, it screams hot head, insecure and nuts. just my opinnion but your post is very short on details
Perhaps you should take the time to read some of her other posts before posting something like this.
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Old 06-21-2012, 04:05 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Those of us that KNOW her story know she did the right thing.
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why do you have to check up on him with a key logger to begin with? just from this one simple post, not knowing you or any back story, it screams hot head, insecure and nuts. just my opinnion but your post is very short on details

Maybe you shouldn't give much input then, unless you read through my stories.....
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Don't know the whole story but clearly there was some sort of agreement in regards to transparency and the keylogger identified the BS.

Good for you.
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Old 06-21-2012, 04:20 PM   #9 (permalink)
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As he's loading his stuff in his truck, our neighbor comes home,(unaware),, and laughs and says,," so she finally kicked you out" ,,,,

Then he texts me, and says " guess this will give you more reason to not trust me",,,,, ( WELL NO SH*T SHERLOCK)
And he must of realized that all on his own...!!!
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No,, he had no clue I have the keylogger on his computer (But he wanted me to be able to see his phone and bank at first to try and build up trust).... he asked me yesterday if I "needed" him.... I told him that at this point and time,, No...

So this is an example of what he does when he thinks he's showing me a lesson.... He cancelled our joint checking account ( we both had separate by now anyway),,,but HE kept all the money that was in it..(wasn't a lot, but still)

Plus on his accounts, he's already gave address changes on the ones he could...

And we have "2nd" counseling session tomorrow... guess he didn't want to give R much of a chance...
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meh you still sound nuts to me(kidding), just my opinion based on one post. i don't have time nor do i care to read everything anyone has posted to get the complete story on a very vague topic.

flame away i am a big boy lol. seriously i am sorry for what you are going through and i am sure you are upset.
Why bother to post then if you have no idea what is going on or any desire to even know?
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No,, he had no clue I have the keylogger on his computer (But he wanted me to be able to see his phone and bank at first to try and build up trust).... he asked me yesterday if I "needed" him.... I told him that at this point and time,, No...

So this is an example of what he does when he thinks he's showing me a lesson.... He cancelled our joint checking account ( we both had separate by now anyway),,,but HE kept all the money that was in it..(wasn't a lot, but still)

Plus on his accounts, he's already gave address changes on the ones he could...

And we have "2nd" counseling session tomorrow... guess he didn't want to give R much of a chance...
On a positive note, you've ripped the band-aid off that "changed man" stuff. No gaslighting for you.

I know it hurts, but it's for the best.

You can observe him now if you wish.

He's got plenty to think about.
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Old 06-21-2012, 04:52 PM   #15 (permalink)
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For what it's worth, I admire your cool under fire.

Nobody really realizes how tough that was.

But, you did the right thing.

He took your measure and completely underestimated you.

This wasn't lost on him (if you care)
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